Ukuqaphela kanjani lapho usetshenziswa

Uke waba nomuzwa wokuthi othile ukuxhaphaza ukuze kuzuze yena? Noma mhlawumbe banentshisekelo kakhulu kulokho ongakunikeza kunakho mayelana nawe. Kulokhu, ingasetshenziswa.

Ukuzizwa "exhashazwe" ngomunye umuntu ngokuvamile kusho ukuthi umuntu ukholelwa ukuthi amalungelo akhe ephuliwe noma ukuthi uxhashazwe ngandlela thize.

"Futhi, umuntu oxhashazwayo angase angayiboni iphethini kuze kube isikhathi eside ngemva kokuba ukuziphatha sekuqalile. "Ngezinye izikhathi umuntu ukuqaphela ngaso leso sikhathi," kusho u-Markham.

Ubudlelwano obudlule, kwesinye isikhathi obusukela ebuntwaneni, bungaba nomthelela ekuguquguqukeni kobudlelwano lapho umuntu esemdala. Isibonelo, abantu abakhulele emikhayeni emihle bangase baqine futhi ngenxa yalokho mancane amathuba okuba basetshenziswe.

Lesi sihloko sizokusiza ukuthi ubone izimpawu osizakala ngazo futhi siphakamise amasu okukumisa.

Izimpawu ozisebenzisayo

Isimo sawo wonke umuntu sihlukile, kodwa ngokuka-Markham, nazi ezinye izimpawu zokuthi othile angase asizakale ngawe:

• Omunye umuntu ucela imali noma umusa kuwe. Isibonelo, uma ufuna ukuboleka imali noma ukukhokha isikweletu.
• Baphoqelela izinto kwabanye ngaphandle kokucabangela ukuthi kulula kangakanani noma abakuthandayo. Isibonelo, ungagcina usuhlala nomuntu kungazelelwe, noma ucele ukuboleka imoto kungazelelwe.
• Lowo muntu uthembele kuwe ukuthi uhlangabezane nezidingo zakhe. Isibonelo, uma niphuma niyodla ndawonye isidlo sakusihlwa, bangase balindele ukuthi ukhokhe isikweletu ngaphandle kokuthembisa ukukhokha.
• Ngemva kokuba izidingo zakhe sezihlangatshezwane, umuntu ubonakala engenandaba nawe. Ngokwesibonelo, bangase bakusebenzise ukuze bahlangabezane nezidingo zabo, kodwa bangase bangafuni ukuchitha isikhathi nawe ngenye indlela.
• Lowo muntu uzoba nothando futhi asondelene nawe kuphela uma kumlungele. Ngokwesibonelo, bangase banamathele kuwe baze bathole abakufunayo.
• Lowo muntu akenzi mzamo wokuba abe khona lapho umdinga. Isibonelo, noma uqasha imoto njalo, bangase bangakugiseli ukuya esikhumulweni sezindiza.

Umthelela wokusetshenziswa

Ukusetshenziswa akugcini nje ngokubeka umthwalo wengqondo kuwe, kodwa futhi kungabangela izinkinga ebudlelwaneni bakho nabanye abantu.

Umthelela empilweni yengqondo

Ukusizakala kungadala izinkinga ezinkulu ezingokwengqondo, ikakhulukazi uma uke wasizakala noma walinyazwa ebudlelwaneni obudlule. Izimpawu ezihlobene nokukhathazeka, ukucindezeleka, nokuhlukumezeka kungenzeka. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ungase ukuthole kunzima ukwethemba abanye futhi wakhe ubuhlobo obusha.

Umthelela ebuhlotsheni

Ukuthathwa ngokunenzuzo akulona neze uphawu lobudlelwano obunempilo. Kusho ukuthi omunye uthathe kakhulu kanti omunye wenza yonke imihlatshelo.

Iphazamisa ibhalansi yamandla ebudlelwaneni babantu. Ebudlelwaneni obunempilo, bobabili abalingani banesibopho sokusekela, ukwethemba, nokuhlinzeka ngokuvikeleka ngokomzwelo kubalingani babo.

Amasu okugwema ukusetshenziswa

Nazi ezinye izinto ongazenza ukuze ugweme ukusizakala.

• Ukubeka Imingcele Ukuhlonza ukwephulwa kwemingcele ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabantu nokufunda ukubeka imingcele enempilo kuqala ukuvikela impilo yakho yengqondo nokuqinisekisa ukuthi awusizakala ngakho. Leyo yindlela enhle kakhulu.
• Zama ukuthuthukisa ukuzethemba kwakho. Ngokusebenzela ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwakho nokubona ukubaluleka kwakho, ungase futhi uzenze mancane amathuba okuba usizakale ebudlelwaneni.
• Cela isiqondiso. Ukufuna isiqondiso kuchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo, umeluleki, noma othile omhloniphayo nakho kungaba usizo emizamweni yakho yokudala imingcele enempilo.

Ekuphetheni

Ukusizakala akuzizwa kumnandi futhi kungaholela ezinkingeni zobudlelwano kanye nezinkinga zempilo yengqondo. Ukubona izimpawu zokuthi othile usizakala ngawe, ukubeka imingcele naye, nokufuna usizo kothandekayo noma uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo kungakusiza ukucubungula umuzwa usetshenziswe ngokunenzuzo futhi, ngokulandelayo, Kuyasiza ukusiza ukuvimbela lokho.