Indlela yokubhekana nokukhathazeka othandweni

Ukukhathazeka umuzwa wokungafaneleki obangelwa ukuntula ukuzethemba. Uyawangabaza amakhono akho, intuition, nobudlelwano, okwenza kube nzima ukukholelwa kuwe nakwabanye.

Ukukhathazeka kungaba umzwelo obuhlungu futhi onzima. Akukhona nje ukuthi kuwumthwalo ongokwengqondo kuphela, kodwa futhi kungabangela izinkinga ebudlelwaneni babantu.

Lesi sihloko sihlola izimpawu, izimbangela, kanye nemiphumela yokukhathazeka ebudlelwaneni futhi siphakamisa amasu okubhekana nakho.

Izimpawu zokungavikeleki ebudlelwaneni

Ebudlelwaneni, ukukhathazeka kungaholela emicabangweni nasezenzweni ezingasizi.

• Ngaso sonke isikhathi hlola umlingani wakho uma ningekho ndawonye ukuze uqinisekise ukuthi ukuphi.
• Awukwazi ukumethemba umlingani wakho ukuthi uzothembeka kuwe futhi uhlale ukhathazeka ngokuthi ukukopela.
• Ukuzizwa unomona ngawo wonke umuntu empilweni yakho nokubambela amagqubu abanye abasondelene nawe
• Abavele bathathe izwi lomunye umuntu ngalokho; bafuna ukuqinisekisa konke abakushoyo.
• Ngizwa sengathi angazi ukuthi kuzofanele ngivalelise nini.
• Bafuna ukudunyiswa nokuqashelwa ukuze bazizwe belondeke kakhudlwana.

Lezi zenzo zizophusha omunye umuntu kude.

Izimbangela zokukhathazeka ebudlelwaneni

Lezi yizimbangela zokukhathazeka ebudlelwaneni.

ubudlelwano obungemnandi bangaphambilini

Abantu abebekade besebudlelwaneni obungenampilo lapho umlingani wabo ebengathembekile noma ephathwa kabi bangase babambelele kuleyo mizwa futhi babafake ebuhlotsheni obusha.

Lokhu kuvame ukwenzeka uma ungakacubunguli ngokomzwelo futhi uxazulule ukusabela kwakho kulobu budlelwano. Kunalokho, ucwila kolunye uthando. Laba bantu bavame ukuveza ukuhlukumezeka kwabo okungaxazululiwe kanye nemithwalo yabo yemizwa kumlingani omusha ngaphandle kwesizathu esihle.

ukuntula ukuzethemba

Abantu abangenakho ukuzethemba bangase bazizwe bengavikelekile ebudlelwaneni ngenxa yokuthi abakholelwa ukuthi abalufanele uthando nokusekelwa ngabalingani babo.

Isipiliyoni sokuxhashazwa, ukugconwa, noma ukuhlukunyezwa umnakekeli kuthumela umyalezo wokuthi uhlukile futhi ungumuntu omubi. Lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kuzokwandisa ukuzethemba kwakho futhi kube nomthelela ebuhlotsheni bakho nozakwenu wamanje.

Ukukhathazeka kwenza njengesiprofetho esizigcwalisayo, futhi ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa umlingani wakho kungabangela ukuthi wenze ngokuzivikela futhi umxoshe.

ukunganakwa noma ukuphathwa kabi

Abantu abaye babhekana nokunganakwa okungapheli noma ukuhlukunyezwa bavame ukuzizwa bengavikelekile ebudlelwaneni babo ngoba akuvamile ukuhlangatshezwana nezidingo zabo ngokugcwele.

Kodwa-ke, ubudlelwano obunjalo abuqinisekisiwe futhi abunikezwa ngokukhululekile esikhathini esidlule, okubhebhezela ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa.

ukukhathazeka komphakathi

Abantu abaningi babhekana nezinga elithile lokukhathazeka komphakathi phakathi nezimo ezifana nemihlangano, amaphathi, izinsuku, nemibuthano emikhulu, kodwa kwabanye abantu kungaba kubi kakhulu, kuphazamise ukuzethemba kwabo ebudlelwaneni.

Ukukhathazeka komphakathi kukwenza uzigxeke ngokweqile futhi kwenza kube nzima ukwethemba izenzo nezinhloso zabanye.

ukwesaba ukwaliwa

Ukwesaba ukwaliwa kungabangela imizwa yokungazethembi ebudlelwaneni. Abanye abantu bayazwela uma benqatshwa ngenxa yokungazethembi. Ngisho nokwehluleka okuncane kakhulu noma ukuthukwa kungabangela ukukhathazeka nokwesaba kwabo okukhulu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuphikelela ngenxa yokwehluleka kungakha ukuzethemba futhi kunciphise ukukhathazeka.

imiphumela yokukhathazeka

Ngezansi, sizochaza ukuthi ukukhathazeka akuthinti kanjani impilo yakho yengqondo kuphela, kodwa futhi nobudlelwano bakho nomlingani wakho.

Umthelela empilweni yengqondo

Ukukhathazeka kuthinta impilo yakho yengqondo. Ngoba ekujuleni kwakho konke, bakholelwa ukuthi abafanelekile noma abafanelekile. Lokhu kuzothinta ubudlelwano bakho bothando kanye nobudlelwano nabangane, osebenza nabo, izingane, nomndeni.

Ngokuhlala ungabaza ukubaluleka kwakho, ungase wamukele ukuphathwa kabi noma ukuxhashazwa kwabanye, futhi ubudlelwano bungaqinisa inkolelo yakho yokuthi awulutho.

Umthelela ebuhlotsheni

Ukukhathazeka kuthinta ubudlelwano ngokudala ukungalingani. Uba matasa ngalokho umlingani wakho angakunikezi futhi esikhundleni salokho ufuna ukuqinisekiswa nokuqinisekiswa kokungazethembi kwakho.

Uqala ukucabanga ngomunye umuntu hhayi njengomuntu olinganayo, kodwa njengento yokukhulula ukungaqiniseki kwakho.

Amasu okudambisa ukukhathazeka

Siphakamisa amasu athile angakusiza ukuthi ubhekane nobudlelwano futhi uzizwe uvikelekile.

• Thola izibangeli zakho. Qaphela kakhulu izimo ezibangela ukukhathazeka kwakho. Ungakwazi ukulandelela izihloko nezindawo ezikubangela ukukhathazeka futhi uqale ukukhomba izinkinga okudingeka usebenzele kuzo.
• Khuluma nomlingani wakho. Xhumana ngokukhululekile mayelana nokungazethembi kwakho, ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani ebuhlotsheni bakho, nokuthi ungaqala kanjani ukubhekana nakho.
• Zama ukuveza imizwa yakho ngaphandle kokusola omunye umuntu ngokuveza imizwa yakho. Isibonelo, esikhundleni sokuthi ``Uyangicindezela ngoba...'', yithi ``Ngezinye izikhathi ngiba nengcindezi ngoba...''.
• Lalela lokho omunye umuntu akushoyo Zama ukuqonda umbono womunye umuntu ngokulalela ngobuqotho kulokho akushoyo.
• Bhala idayari Uma uzizwa ukhathazekile, ukugcina idayari ukubhala phansi imicabango yakho kungaba ngempumelelo. Lo msebenzi uzokusiza ukuthi ubone izimo ezidala ukukhathazeka kwakho. Ukubhala kujenali njengabashadikazi nakho kungajulisa ukwethembana phakathi kwenu nobabili.
• Cabangela ukubona umelaphi. Ukuqonda nokuxhumana okuvulekile kubalulekile, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi udinga umbono wangaphandle oqeqeshiwe ukuze uqonde ngokugcwele ukuthi ukukhathazeka kwakho kuhlanganiswe kanjani namandla ayinkimbinkimbi. Kunalokho, umelaphi angasebenza nawe ukuze abhekane nokukhathazeka kwakho.

Ekuphetheni

Ukuphila ngokukhathazeka kungase kube nzima futhi kuphazamise imizwa. Abantu bangase bangabe besazizwa bekufanelekela ukuthandwa nokunakekelwa, futhi ubuhlobo bungahluleka. Uma ungamethembi umlingani wakho noma ubudlelwano bakho, ungase uhlanganyele ekuziphatheni okungenampilo okungalimaza ubuhlobo benu.

Ngokuthatha isikhathi sokuqonda ukukhathazeka kwakho, ukuvuleleka ngendlela ozizwa ngayo, nokufuna usizo lochwepheshe uma kudingeka, ungalwa nokukhathazeka futhi wakhe ubudlelwano obunempilo.