Ukugxalathelana ukuya kwindawo yokukrexeza! Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa ubona indawo yokuqhatha?

Ndathi ndakuva, ``Ndibone umntu endiqhatha!'' Ndacinga ukuba ngumboniso odumileyo ophuma kumdlalo weqonga, kodwa ikwayinto eyenzeka kubomi bokwenyani. Ukuba ubunokubona iqabane lakho liqhatha okanye lithandana, mhlawumbi ubuya kuziva ungento yanto kwaye ulusizi. Oku kothusa ngakumbi kwabo bebephila ngolonwabo bengazi ukuba iqabane labo liyabaqhatha. Nangona kunjalo, kunokuthiwa kwakhona ukuba ukufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho belikukopela kungcono kunokuqhubeka nokuhlala neqabane lakho likuqhatha. Ukukopela okanye ukuthandana ngaphandle komtshato kuya kutyhila ubume bokwenyani beqabane lakho, ke lithuba elihle lokuphinda ucinge ngekamva losapho lwakho nomtshato wakho.

Ukuba ubona indawo yokukopela, unokuqinisekisa ukuba omnye umntu uyakopela. Ngokuphathelele indlela yokujongana nayo emva koko, ngaba ulahlekelwa kukuphola kwakho, uphulukane nokulawula umsindo wakho, kwaye ubethe ngqo iqabane lakho kunye nomntu othandana naye ukuze ukhulule ukuphoxeka kwakho? Ngaba uya kuceba ukuziphindezela ngoxa ubaqalekisa kabukhali, usithi, “Andiyi kukuxolela!”? engalunganga! Ukulwa kululwaphulo-mthetho kumacala omabini, ngoko ugonyamelo nezisongelo aziyonto ilungileyo! Eli nqaku lichaza ezi ntshukumo zilandelayo:

Ngoko ke, yintoni ofanele uyenze ukuze womeleze isikhundla sakho uze uthabathe ithuba kuphuhliso lwexesha elizayo?

Yintoni omawuyenze xa ubona umcimbi/ukukopela

Okokuqala, phinda uzole

Abantu abaninzi bafumana ngokweemvakalelo nje ngokubona isithandwa sabo ukuthandana omnye umntu, kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo ukuyenza xa engqina umcimbi kukuhlala uzolile. Ukuze wenze izigqibo ezifanelekileyo kunye nesicwangciso sekamva, kunzima ukwenza oko emva kokubona umcimbi okanye ukungathembeki, kodwa akufanele ulahlekelwe yingqiqo yakho.

Zibuze, "Ngaba ngokwenene uyathandana?"

Ukuba ungumntu obesoloko engalithembi iqabane lakho yaye urhanela ukuba lisenokuba liyathandana, ukubona nje iqabane lakho likunye nomntu wesini esahlukileyo kunokukwenza ucinge, ``Akunjalo, uthandana nomnye umntu.' Unokucinga ukuba, "Ngaba ngokwenene uyakopela? Ngokuqinisekileyo uyakopela okanye unobudlelwane!" Jonga iqabane lakho kunye nalo mntu ukuze uqiniseke ukuba bayakopela ngokwenene. Ukuba abantu ababini bahamba kunye, oko kubonisa ukuba banolwalamano olusondeleyo. Ukuba nobabini nincamisana ngokuphindaphindiweyo, nincokola kamnandi, niwolana, kunye nezinye iindlela zokuziphatha ezineentloni, ngokuqinisekileyo niyaqhatha. Ewe, akukho mfuneko yokujonga ukuba ubona umcimbi wesondo usenzeka. Nakwindawo apho aba babini behamba ze ebhedini, unokuqiniseka ukuba bayathandana.

Fumana ubungqina bokukopela

Indawo yokukopela lithuba lokufumana ubungqina obubambekayo. Sebenzisa ikhamera, irekhoda yelizwi, iselfowuni, okanye esinye isixhobo esinefoto/ividiyo ukuze ubambe umzuzu othatha isigqibo xa nobabini nithandana. Kwanele ukwenza ifilimu ngokwaneleyo ukuveza into yokuba bobabini bayathandana. Kulungile nokuba ikhamera yakho ayisebenzi kakuhle.

Ngalo lonke ixesha uphethe i-smartphone yakho kunye nawe njengenyathelo lokhuseleko xa uzifumana uqhatha. Ngale ndlela, ungayikhupha ngokukhawuleza ngexesha likaxakeka, ngoko ke kunokuba luncedo ekuqokeleleni ubungqina bokukopela. Nje ukuba unobungqina bokukopela, yidlulisele ngokukhawuleza kwiPC yakho usebenzisa isoftware yokudlulisa ukunqanda ukuphulukana nedatha.

Thetha neqabane lakho malunga nokuqhatha

Esona sizathu sibalulekileyo sokuba kutheni iqabane liqhubeka nokukopela okanye lithandana kukuba ubudlelwane ayaziwa. Ukuba utyhola iqabane lakho ngokukopela ngokuthi, ``Ndikubonile uqhatha,'' okanye ``Uyoyikeka,' kukho ithuba lokuba iqabane lakho licele uxolo, lahlukane nawe, kwaye licinge ngobudlelwane bakho bokukopela. . Ukongeza, xa uthetha ngokukopa neqabane lakho, unokubonisa intlungu yakho ngokweemvakalelo ngokuthi, ``Ndandiqhathiwe!'' okanye ``Ndingcatshiwe! yibani nobudlelwane kwixesha elizayo,’’ okanye ‘Guquka.’ Ukuba wenjenjalo, ndiya kukuxolela!” Mxelele. Oku kunokwenza iqabane lakho lizive linetyala malunga nokuqhatha/ukungathembeki.

Ngendlela, ubuthongo bukunceda ukuba ucinge ngokuzola kwaye uxoxe ngezinto kunye neqabane lakho, ngoko kuyacetyiswa ukuba uqale incoko malunga nokukopela emva kokuba uphumle.

Ukuthetha "isohlwayo" esinxulumene nokukhohlisa / ukungathembeki

Ngaphambi kwengxoxo, lungiselela isixhobo esifana nerekhoda yelizwi uze urekhode incoko. Kwaye unokugqiba malunga "nesohlwayo" ngokusekelwe kwisimo sengqondo somlingani wakho.

Ukuba omnye umntu uziva enetyala ngokukopela okanye ukuthandana aze acele uxolo ngokunyanisekileyo ngokuthi, `` Ndiyazisola, '' "Andisayi kuphinda," okanye ``Nceda undixolele,'' kulungile baxolele ngaphandle kokubohlwaya. Xa iqabane lifumene namava okubhaqwa liqhatha lifunyanwe liqabane lakhe, alinakuze liphinde lithandane. Kwakhona, esi siganeko kufuneka someleze isikhundla somntu ozithandayo kubudlelwane babo njengabathandi kunye nomyeni nomfazi. Ukuba isikhundla sakho siba namandla, kuya kuba lula kwiqabane lakho ukumamela izicelo zakho ozithandayo kunye neminqweno kwaye izaliseke. Nokuba ucela izinto ozifunayo okanye imali eyongezelelweyo, iqabane lakho lisenokungabi nandlela yimbi ngaphandle kokwaneliseka ngokubuyisela ukukopela kuwe.

Noko ke, kukho iimeko apho omnye umntu engaxolisi ade abhenele kugonyamelo. Ukuba awuziva ufuna ukuguquka ngokuzolileyo, unokubonisana neqabane lakho malunga noqhawulo-mtshato, ulwahlulo lwepropathi, inkxaso yabantwana, i-alimony, njl. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, fumana iinkcukacha ezinjengobude bexesha lomnye umntu ekuqhathayo nokuba ebekuqhatha kangaphi. Nantoni na enxulumene nokukopela okanye imicimbi yangaphandle iya kuchaphazela isixa se-alimony, ngoko kuyimfuneko ngokupheleleyo ukuyibhala kwaye uyigcine njengobungqina.

Qokelela ubungqina obuqinileyo bokukopela

Iifoto, iividiyo, iimemo zezwi zomntu onobudlelwane / ukukopela (imihla, isondo, njl.), kunye neefoto zokungena kunye nokuphuma kwiihotele zothando zonke zibubungqina obuqinileyo bokukopela. Iingxoxo ezinxulumene nokuqhatha / ukungathembeki okuvela kwindawo yokukopela kunye nokungqina kuyo lelona thuba libalulekileyo lokuqokelela ubungqina bokukopela. Nceda usebenzise izixhobo ezifana neeselfowuni ukuqokelela ubungqina.