Ukunyamezela njani ukukopela / ukungathembeki kwesithandwa sakho, kwaye wenze ntoni xa ungakwazi ukumelana nayo

``Ndifumanise ukuba umyeni wam uyaqhatha, kufuneka ndinyamezele kude kube nini? Abanye abantu bayasigcina isimo sabo sikhoyo kuba bengazi ukuba mabenze ntoni na xa bedibene nokuqhatha okanye ukukrexeza kuxoxwa esidlangalaleni. Ukongeza, nangona bengathanda ukunqanda umthandi wabo ekuqhatheni, abantu abaninzi bakhetha "ukunyamezela" ukuze banandiphe ubomi obuzinzile kunye nobutofotofo.

Kuyinyani ukuba kuthatha ixesha elininzi kunye nomgudu ukusombulula ngokucokisekileyo ukukopela / ukungathembeki kwesithandwa sakho. Ngaphezu koko, kuthiwa ehlabathini ``ukuqhatha kukwemvelo'' kwaye ``ukuqhatha akunyangeki,' ngoko ke nokuba kuthe kwabhaqwa umntu ongcatshiweyo usenokuqhubeka nokuqhatha, ecinga ukuba `` ndiphumelele. ‘yoyisa kwanokuba ndiyithethile.’ Usenokuba mathidala ukuphanda uze uzibambe. Noko ke, kusenokungabi lula ngolo hlobo ukuba umntu oqhathiweyo anyamezele. Ngoko ke, eli nqaku liza kwazisa iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokunyamezela ukukopela / ukungathembeki kwesithandwa sakho.

Yintoni omawuyenze xa ufuna ukunyamezela ukukopela/ukungathembeki kwesithandwa sakho

Okokuqala, zama ukuzikhwebula kwisithandwa sakho.

Nokuba uzama ukunyamezela, usenokungakwazi ukunyamezela xa ubona iimpawu zokuba isithandwa sakho sithandana neqabane elikopelayo. Xa ubona isithandwa sakho siqhagamshelana nomntu nge-LINE okanye i-imeyile, awukwazi ukuzibamba kodwa ucinge, ``Ngaba uya kuqhagamshelana neqabane lokukopela kwakhona?'' kwaye kuba buhlungu ngengqondo. Ukuba isithandwa sakho asikho secaleni kwakho, uya kuba nexhala lokuba usenokuthandana nomntu wesini esahlukileyo, yaye awuzukwazi ukulala nokuba uyafuna. Xa uqaphela ukuba uqhathiwe, ukucinga nje ngesithandwa sakho kunokukuzalisa ngexhala.

Ngelo xesha, ukuba kunokwenzeka, kungcono ukukhangela isizathu kwaye uzinike ixesha lokupholisa ukuze uzole ingqondo yakho. Unokunciphisa imiphumo emibi yokukopela ngokushiya isithandwa sakho singathembekanga, ukunciphisa ixesha apho nobabini nihlala, kwaye nitshintshe isimo sengqondo sakho ukwenza ubudlelwane bakho bangoku buhlale ixesha elide.

2. Ziphazamise ngezinto zokuzonwabisa, umsebenzi, ukuhamba, njl.

Enye indlela yokuphepha ukukopa kukugxila kwezinye izinto ezinomdla ngaphandle kokucinga ngobudlelwane bakho. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uxakekile yonke imihla yaye uxakeke ngumsebenzi wakho, uya kukwazi ukuthomalalisa iintlungu nobulolo, yaye uya kujongwa njengomntu okhutheleyo owuthandayo umsebenzi yaye uya kuhlonelwa ngabo bakungqongileyo.

Unokusebenzisa umcimbi wesithandwa sakho njengethuba lokukhangela izinto zokuzonwabisa ngaphandle kothando, okanye uqalise ukufunda okuya kuba luncedo kwizinto ozithandayo okanye emsebenzini. Ukuba unomdlalo owuthandayo, akunto ingaqhelekanga ukugxila kuloo nto kunokuba ube nomcimbi wesithandwa sakho.

Ukuba umsebenzi kunye nezinto zokuzilibazisa azanelanga, ungasebenzisa ukuhamba njengendlela yokutshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo kwaye ujabulele ukuthenga, imidlalo, njl njl ngelixa usendleleni yokuphucula ubomi bakho.

3. Fumana umntu onokuthetha naye malunga nokuqhatha kubantu abakungqongileyo.

Abanye abantu bacinga ukuba, ‘Ekubeni kukho umntu ondiqhathileyo, kutheni ungandiqhathi nam?’’ Noko ke, ukuba uqalisa ukuziqhatha ngoxa unyamezela ukukopela kwesithandwa sakho, kuya kulwenza lube mbi ngakumbi ulwalamano lwakho. Ukuzilawula yeyona nto ibalulekileyo xa kufikwa ukunyamezela isithandwa sakho ukukopela / ukungathembeki. Musa ukuphelelwa lithemba kwaye wenze into engenakwenzeka ngenxa yokungcatshwa kwesithandwa sakho.

Ukuba ngokwenene ukuxhalabele ukuqhathwa, kutheni ungathethi nomnye umntu? Ukuba nomntu okufutshane onokubonisana naye malunga nokukopela kunokukunceda ukuba uhlole imeko yangoku, kwaye unike iingcebiso malunga nokuba wenzeni ukuba umntu uyakukopela. Basenokuphendula imibuzo efana nale ``Ndingazibamba njani?'' kunye ``Ndifanele ukuzibamba kangakanani?'' Nangona kunjalo, ukuze ugweme ukuveza into yokuba umthandi wakho ukhohlisa abanye, kufuneka ukhethe umntu ofuna ukuthetha naye malunga nokukhohlisa ngononophelo.

Akwanelanga na ukuba nomonde? Akulunganga ukunyamezela ukuqhatha/ukungathembeki kwesithandwa sakho kakhulu.
Abantu abaninzi bakhetha "ukunyamezela," kodwa kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba ukukhetha "ukunyamezela" akuyi kusombulula ingxaki. Isizathu sesokuba nokuba unyamezele, into yokuba isithandwa sakho sikuqhathile asiyi kutshintsha. Ngoko ke, musa ukunyamezela ukukopa kakhulu ukuze ugcine imeko ikhoyo. Nokuba ufuna ukwenza ngathi umcimbi wesithandwa sakho awuzange wenzeke kwaye uqhubeke uphila njengesiqhelo, uya kuqalisa ukuziva udinwe engqondweni kwaye awusayi kuba nako ukonwabela yonke imihla njengoko ubuqhele ukwenza. Yaye akukho nto inokubuyekeza loo ntlungu. Ukuba unyamezela nje, wena okanye umthandi wakho uya kukwazi ukuphuma kwi-morass yokukopela.

Ayisiyiyo loo nto kuphela, kodwa ukuba unyamezele okwethutyana kwaye ujonge imeko yokukopela kwaye ujonge isimilo somthandi wakho, kuya kuba luncedo kuphando oluzayo lokukopela kunye nokuqokelela ubungqina bokukopela, kodwa ukuba unyamezele ukuziphatha okubi. ide igqithe kumda, iya kuba yingxaki enkulu.Inoxinzelelo kwaye inokukhokelela kwingxaki enkulu. Nangona abantu besoloko besithi “umonde sisidima,” asifanele sizibethe ngoyaba izinto ezingeloncedo ‘zomonde.

Intlekele inokwenzeka ukuba ukunyamezela ukukopela / ukungathembeki kakhulu.

1. Imihla yonke ibuhlungu ndoyika ukuba ndingagqabhuka.

Ukuba uyanyamezela ukukopela, kukho amathuba aphezulu okuba umntu oqhathwayo uya kuba nobunzima yonke imihla. Ukuba awuzisombululi iingxaki zakho, uxinzelelo lwakho luya kwanda, kwaye awuzukukwazi ukukhulula uxinzelelo lwakho ngaphandle kokuba iqabane lakho liyayeka ukukuqhatha. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uqhubeka uzityhalela kumda, unokugula ngokomzimba kwaye umsindo wakho unokuqhuma, okukhokelela kwiziganeko zobundlobongela. Nokuba uzama ukugcina izinto njengoko zinjalo kwaye unyamezele, ngenye imini usenokungakwazi ukuzibamba kwaye uqale ukuziphindezela kuni nobabini abaniqhathileyo.

2. Shiya isithandwa sakho kunye neqabane ukukopela yedwa

Iqabane eliqhathiweyo lisenokuwunyamezela lo mcimbi wokwexeshana, licinga ukuba, ``Ngumdlalo nje, ngoko ndiyazibuza ukuba iqabane lam ekugqibeleni liya kundincama lize libuye libe secaleni kwam. Nangona kunjalo, isenzo sokuzibamba sinokukhuthaza ukukopela, njengoko kwenza umthandi wakho acinge ukuba akanakugxekwa ngokuqhubekayo ngokukopela. Ngenxa yokuba abahlwaywanga ngokufanelekileyo ngenxa yokukopela, nangona umthandi udinwa ngumcimbi wangoku, unokuqalisa ukukhangela umntu odlala naye omtsha kwaye agqibe ukukopela. Uya kwandula ke umonde wakho ube lilize.

3. Ukusasaza imiphumo emibi yokukopela nokukrexeza

``Kuyabangela iintloni ukuqhathwa, kwaye abantu abambalwa bayazi ngayo, ngcono, akunjalo?' Ndiyakuqonda ukuba kutheni ungafuni ukufumanisa malunga nomcimbi wakho kuba awufuni ukwazisa abantu abakungqongileyo, kodwa andinakuqinisekisa ukuba awuzukufumanisa ukuba awuxoxi. kunye neqabane lakho.

Kusenokwenzeka ukuba abazali beqabane lakho okanye abantu osebenza nabo sele beyifumene le nto. Nangona kunjalo, nangona omnye umntu efumanisa malunga nokukopela komthandi wakho, awunguye lowo uqhathwayo, ngoko ke abanalo "igunya" lokubonisa ukuziphatha okukhohlisayo komthandi wakho kwaye bayeke ngokupheleleyo. Kwimeko apho, ukuba awukwazi ukuzibamba kwaye ujongane nokungcatshwa komthandi wakho, kuya kuba nefuthe elibi kubomi bakho bexesha elizayo.

Ukuba awukwazi ukuzibamba, akunyanzelekanga ukuba uzibambe.

Ukuqokelelwa kobungqina bokuqhatha

Qala ukuqokelela ubungqina bokukopela nokuba uyanyamezela. Abantu ababini abaye bakhohlisana abanakuyivuma lula into yokuba baye baqhatha omnye komnye. Umzekelo, iqabane lakho lokukopela linokubuyela kuwe ngeengxabano ezahlukeneyo. Ukuze kulungiswe ityala lokukopela ngokucokisekileyo, kuyimfuneko ukulungiselela ubungqina bokukopela kwangaphambili obunokubonisa ukuba aba bantu babini banomdla. Ukuba usebenzisa iindlela zophando zokukopela ezifana nokujonga i-LINE yesithandwa sakho okanye ukulandelela ukukopela kwesithandwa sakho usebenzisa i-GPS, unokuqokelela ulwazi oluninzi lokukopela kwaye ufumane inzuzo kwiingxoxo malunga nokukopa.

thetha ngokuqhatha

Emva kokuba unobungqina bokukopela kwaye ulungele, qalisa ukuphikisana ngaphandle kokubamba. Lisebenzise ithuba lokuba nengxoxo, usole isithandwa sakho, umenze azive enetyala, kwaye umenze azisole ngomcimbi wakhe. Baxelele malunga nokufunyanwa komcimbi, intlungu kunye nobukhulu bexesha, kwaye ubaxelele umnqweno wakho wokuyeka umcimbi kwaye ungaphinde udibane neqabane lokukopela kwakhona.

Eli lixesha apho zonke izinto zeemvakalelo obuzibambile ziphuma entlokweni yakho, ngoko unokuphulukana nokuphola kwakho ngexesha lengxoxo kwaye awukwazi ukuqhubeka kakuhle. Ukuze usebenzise eli thuba, thetha nesithandwa sakho ngokuzolileyo kangangoko.

Kuyenzeka ukuba ucele imbuyekezo

Ukuba elinye iqela lithandana, unokumisela izohlwayo kwiqabane elikopela ngokufaka ibango lembuyekezo. Oku kunokuthiwa yimbuyekezo yentlungu yokuqhathwa, kodwa ukuze kufakwe ibango le-alimony ngenxa yokungathembeki, kuyimfuneko ukungqina isenzo sokungathembeki kunye nokuqokelela ubungqina obubambekayo bokungathembeki, kwaye kuyimfuneko ukwenza isigwebo kwi Isixa se-alimony kwakhona kuxhomekeke kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Nceda ulumke.

Ukuba akubi ngcono, uqhawulo-mtshato okanye ukwahlukana lukhetho.

Kunokuba unyamezele intlungu yokuqhathwa isithandwa sakho kwaye kufuneka unyamezele ukungcatshwa kweqabane lakho, kungcono ukuphepha intlungu yexesha elizayo ngokukhetha ukuqhawula okanye ukuqhawula umtshato ngoku. Abanye abantu bacinga ukuba xa uvelisa ukuhlukana / uqhawulo-mtshato, yonke into iphelile, kodwa eli thuba linokukunceda ukuba unqobe intlungu yokukopela. Emva kokuphelisa ubudlelwane bakho obudlulileyo, jolise kwisithandwa esingayi kukuqhatha, wenze izicwangciso ezintsha, kwaye uqale ubomi obutsha.