Indlela yokuqonda xa usetyenziswa

Ngaba wakha waziva ngathi kukho umntu okuxhaphazayo ukuze kungenelwe yena? Okanye mhlawumbi banomdla ngakumbi koko unokunikela ngako kunokuba banjalo ngawe. Kule meko, inokusetyenziswa.

Ukuziva "uxhatshaziwe" ngumntu ngokuqhelekileyo kuthetha ukuba umntu ukholelwa ukuba amalungelo akhe anyhashiwe okanye uthatyathwe ngandlela thile.

“Kwakhona, umntu oxhatshazwayo usenokungawuqondi lo mzekelo de kube kudala emva kokuba eqalile ukuziphatha.” UMarkham uthi: “Ngamanye amaxesha umntu uyayibona ngoko nangoko.

Ubudlelwane bangaphambili, ngamanye amaxesha obuqala ebuntwaneni, bunokuba nefuthe kwiintshukumo zobudlelwane ebudaleni. Ngokomzekelo, abantu abakhulele kwiintsapho ezihlala kakuhle banokuthi bazinze kwaye bangabi namathuba okuba basetyenziswe.

Eli nqaku liza kukunceda uchonge iimpawu oxhatshazwa kuzo kwaye ucebise iindlela zokuyinqanda.

Iimpawu ozisebenzisayo

Imeko yomntu wonke yahlukile, kodwa ngokukaMarkham, nantsi imiqondiso yokuba umntu unokuthatha ithuba ngawe:

• Omnye umntu ucela imali okanye uncedo kuwe. Umzekelo, ukuba ufuna ukuboleka imali okanye ukuhlawula ityala.
• Banyanzelela abanye izinto ngaphandle kokuqwalasela ukulunga kwabo okanye ukukhetha kwabo. Ngokomzekelo, unokuphelisa ngokukhawuleza ukuhlala nomntu, okanye ngokukhawuleza ucele ukuboleka imoto.
• Loo mntu uthembele kuwe ukuba ahlangabezane neemfuno zakhe. Umzekelo, ukuba niphuma niyokutya kunye, banokulindela ukuba uhlawule ityala ngaphandle kokuhlawula.
• Emva kokuba iimfuno zakhe zifezekisiwe, umntu ubonakala engakukhathaleli. Ngokomzekelo, banokukusebenzisa ukuze bahlangabezane neemfuno zabo, kodwa basenokungafuni ukuchitha ixesha nawe ngenye indlela.
• Loo mntu uya kuba nothando kwaye asondelelane nawe kuphela xa kufanelekile kuye. Ngokomzekelo, basenokunamathela kuwe de bayifumane loo nto bayifunayo.
• Loo mntu akenzi nzame ukuba abekho xa umdinga. Umzekelo, nangona uhlala uqesha imoto, banokunganikezeli ukukhwela kwisikhululo seenqwelomoya.

Impembelelo yokusetyenziswa

Ukusetyenziswa akunakubeka umthwalo wengqondo kuphela kuwe, kodwa kunokubangela iingxaki kubudlelwane bakho phakathi kwabantu.

Impembelelo kwimpilo yengqondo

Ukuthathelwa ithuba kunokubangela iingxaki ezinkulu ngokwasengqondweni, ngakumbi ukuba uye waxhatshazwa okanye wenzakaliswa kubudlelwane obudlulileyo. Iimpawu ezinxulumene nokuxhalaba, ukudakumba, kunye nokwenzakala kunokwenzeka. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, unokukufumanisa kunzima ukuthemba abanye kunye nokwenza ubudlelwane obutsha.

Impembelelo kubudlelwane

Ukuthathelwa uncedo ngokuqinisekileyo ayilophawu lobudlelwane obunempilo. Kuthetha ukuba omnye uthathe kakhulu kwaye omnye wenza yonke imibingelelo.

Iphazamisa ukulingana kwamandla kubudlelwane babantu. Kubudlelwane obuphilileyo, omabini amaqabane anoxanduva lokuxhasa, ukuthemba, kunye nokubonelela ngokhuseleko lweemvakalelo kwiqabane labo.

Amaqhinga okuthintela ukuthathwa

Nazi ezinye izinto onokuzenza ukuze uphephe ukusetyenziswa kakubi.

• Ukuseta imida Ukuchonga ukunyhashwa kwemida kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu nokufunda ukumisela imida esempilweni kuqala ukukhusela impilo yakho yengqondo kwaye uqinisekise ukuba awuthathelwa ncedo.Yindlela entle leyo.
• Zama ukuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho. Ngokusebenzela ukwandisa ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nokuqaphela ukubaluleka kwakho, unokwenza ukuba ungabikho amathuba okuba uthatyathwe kubudlelwane.
• Cela isikhokelo. Ukufuna isikhokelo kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo, umcebisi, okanye umntu omhlonelayo nako kunokuba luncedo kwiinzame zakho zokudala imida enempilo.

ukuququmbela

Ukuthathelwa uncedo akuziva mnandi kwaye kunokukhokelela kwiingxaki zobudlelwane kunye neengxaki zempilo yengqondo. Ukuqaphela iimpawu zokuba umntu uthatha ithuba kuwe, ukubeka imida kunye nabo, kunye nokufuna uncedo kumntu omthandayo okanye kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo kunokukunceda ukuba uqhube ukuziva uthathiwe kwaye, ngokulandelayo, kuyanceda ukunqanda oko.