Indlela yokujongana nokuqhathwa: Thatha isigqibo ngobomi bakho bexesha elizayo ngokhetho lwakho

"Umyeni wam wandiqhatha! Kubuhlungu, ndenzeni?"

Ngoku ukukopela kuye kwaba ngumba wentlalontle, ndihlala ndibona imibuzo efana nale kwi-intanethi ye-BBS kunye nezinye iindawo zokubonisana. Ngokusasazeka kweefowuni eziphathwayo, iWebhu, kunye ne-SNS kuluntu lwanamhlanje, abantu abafuna ukuthandana banokufumana iqabane abalithandayo kwiindawo zokuthandana. Kule mihla, inani labantu abaqhathayo lisanda ngokukhawuleza, yaye liya lisanda inani labantu abaxhalabele ukuqhathwa.

Ke kufuneka wenze ntoni xa ufumanisa ukuba isithandwa sakho sikungcatshile? Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu oqhathiweyo akanakukhetha phakathi kokuqhubeka nolwalamano okanye ukuqhawula umtshato. Nangona kunjalo, xa sele wenze ukhetho, akukho siqinisekiso sokuba awusayi kuphinda uqhathwe. Ukongeza ekwenzeni izigqibo ngobomi bakho bexesha elizayo, kufuneka uthathe amanyathelo okuphila ubomi obungenako ukukopela. Kungokwemvelo ukuziva ubuhlungu kakhulu xa isithandwa sakho, obumthembile ixesha elide, sikuqhatha, kodwa kububulumko ukukhetha indlela yakho yexesha elizayo ngokuzolileyo.

Eli nqaku lithatha iinketho ``ukungaqhawuki'' okanye ``ukwaphuka'' kwaye lazisa iindlela zokuphucula ubomi bakho bothando bexesha elizayo kwabo baqhathiweyo. Siza kukubonisa indlela yokuthintela iqabane lakho ekubeni ukukopela kwakhona ngaphandle kokuqhawula, okanye indlela yokuphila ngolonwabo ngonaphakade.

Ukuba ukhetha ukungaqhekeki: Phucula ubudlelwane bakho nesithandwa sakho kwaye uthintele omnye umcimbi.

Yenza isithandwa sakho sizive sinetyala ngokukopela

Ukuba umntu omqhathileyo akaziva enetyala ngento ayenzileyo ephosakeleyo, unokuhlakulela umkhwa wokukopela nokukuqhatha ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Ke ngoko, iqhinga lokuthintela ukukopela kukwenza umthandi wokukopela azisole kwaye aqonde izono zakhe.

Ziqonde kwaye ucamngce “ngeziphene” zakho

Nalomntu uqhathiweyo akanakuthi akukho tyala tu. Ukuba ufuna ukuphinda ulwakhe ubudlelwane bakho kwaye ulwenze luhlale ixesha elide kunangaphambili, kubalulekile ukufunda kumava akho othando adlulileyo. Ubudlelwane bothando obutshatyalaliswayo ngenxa yokukopela bubuthathaka ngakumbi kunangaphambili kwaye kunzima ukuphinda bayakhe. Ukuba usafuna ukusindisa ubomi bakho kunye, kufuneka uvume iimpazamo zakho kunye neqabane lakho elidlulileyo kwaye uqhubele phambili kwikamva lakho.

qinisa ubudlelwane bakho nesithandwa sakho

Nokuba lover yakho akanawo nawuphi na umnqweno wokuba nenkanuko, kukho umngcipheko ukuba iqabane cheeky ukukopela uya kusebenzisa amava akhe ukukopela ukuhenda isithandwa sakho. Ukuze ugweme ukuphangwa isithandwa sakho, kufuneka unxibelelane rhoqo kwaye uthethe umyalezo othi "akukho mntu unokuthatha indawo yam." Ukuba kunjalo, awuyi kuqhatha isithandwa sakho nokuba unesithukuthezi, kwaye uya kunqaba ngembeko ukuba ukumema.

Ukuba awunakukwazi ngokupheleleyo ukuxolela isithandwa sakho ngokukopela kuwe, ukuqhawula kuyindlela enye.

Ukuba ukhetha ukwahlukana: Phuma kumgxobhozo wokuqhathwa kwaye ufune ubomi obutsha obonwabisayo

Sula ubudlelwane bakho obudlulileyo kwaye unciphise umonakalo obangelwa kukukopela

Intlungu yokuqhathwa inokuba nefuthe elibi kubudlelwane bexesha elizayo. Baninzi abantu abangafuniyo ukuphinda bathandane nomnye umntu kuba beqhathiwe. Ukuba usenethemba elikhulu lobudlelwane bothando kwixesha elizayo, kungcono ukulungisa izinto kunye nesithandwa sakho xa nahlukana, ungaze unxibelelane okanye uqhagamshelane kwakhona de nobabini nizolile, kwaye nizame ukulibala intlungu yokukopela kakhulu. kangangoko kunokwenzeka ngelixa ukuyo.

Fumana umntu ongayi kuqhatha kwaye uxabise ubudlelwane bakho obuzayo

Ukuba owayesakuba ngumthandi wakho ukuqhathile, kutheni ungapholisi inxeba ngothando olusenyongweni? Ukuba uthando lwakho lokuqala lwaphela kakubi ngenxa yokuba umthandi wakho wakuqhatha, ukususela ngoku, fumana umntu ongayi kukukhohlisa kwaye ujabulele uthando lwakho nomntu onengqondo enye. Ewe, ulonwabo eluthandweni alupheleli nje ekuthembekeni, kodwa kukho amathuba okuba nobabini niphele nineengxaki ngaphandle kokukopela. Ukuze ulwalamano lwakho olulandelayo luhambe kakuhle, funda kubudlelwane bakho obudlulileyo kwaye ube ngumntu onobutyebi bamava othando.

Ukuba udiniwe luthando, zama ukuhlala wedwa

Ubomi babo buzaliswe luthando phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, kwaye banokunandipha amava akhethekileyo othando, kodwa kwangaxeshanye kufuneka basombulule iingxaki ezahlukeneyo zeemvakalelo. Ukuba ukhe waqhathwa, ukuba unesithukuthezi ngokupheleleyo ngobomi bakho kunye nesithandwa sakho kwaye ufuna ukubuyisela inkululeko yokuba ungatshatanga, unokunikezela ngobudlelwane obungenantsingiselo kwaye ufumane ulonwabo lokuphinda ungatshatanga.

Yenza ukhetho lwakho ekudibaneni kweendlela zothando

Usafuna ukuqhubeka uhlala nalomntu? Okanye ngaba ufuna ukwahlukana kwaye uqale ukuthandana nomnye umntu? Masithathe ithuba lokuba uqhathwe ukuze uphinde ucinge ngobudlelwane bakho bothando nesithandwa sakho. Emva kokucinga nzulu, uthatha isigqibo malunga nokhetho ongayi kuzisola ngalo ngolonwabo lwakho lwekamva kwaye uqale ubomi obutsha.