Indlela yokujongana nexhala eluthandweni

Ixhala kukuziva ungafaneleki okubangelwa kukungazithembi. Uyathandabuza izakhono zakho, intuition, kunye nobudlelwane, okwenza kube nzima ukukholelwa kuwe nakwabanye.

Ukuxhalaba kunokuba yimvakalelo ebuhlungu kwaye enzima. Ayingomthwalo wengqondo kuphela, kodwa inokubangela iingxaki kubudlelwane babantu.

Eli nqaku liphonononga imiqondiso, oonobangela, kunye neziphumo zokuxhalaba kubudlelwane kwaye licebisa iindlela zokujongana nalo.

Iimpawu zokungakhuseleki kubudlelwane

Kulwalamano, ukuxhalaba kunokukhokelela kwiingcinga nezenzo ezingancediyo.

• Ngalo lonke ixesha ujonge iqabane lakho xa nikunye ukuze niqinisekise ukuba liphi na.
• Awunakuthembela kwiqabane lakho ukuba linyaniseke kuwe kwaye uhlale unexhala lokuba bayakukopela.
• Ukuziva unomona ngaye wonke umntu ebomini bakho nokubamba inzondo kwabanye abasondeleyo kuwe
• Abathathi nje ilizwi lomnye umntu ngalo; bafuna ukuqinisekisa yonke into abayithethayo.
• Ingathi andiyazi ukuba kofuneka ndivalelise nini.
• Bafuna ukudunyiswa nokuqondwa ukuze bazive benqabiseke ngakumbi.

Ezi zenzo ziya kutyhala omnye umntu kude.

Iimbangela zokuxhalaba kubudlelwane

Ezi zizinto ezinokubangela ixhala kubudlelwane.

ubudlelwane obungemnandanga bangaphambili

Abantu ababekubudlelwane obungenampilo apho iqabane labo lingathembekanga okanye liphathwe kakubi banokubambelela kwezo mvakalelo kwaye baziqhubele kubudlelwane obutsha.

Oku kudla ngokwenzeka ukuba awukhange ujonge ngokweemvakalelo kwaye uzisombulule ezakho iindlela kobu budlelwane. Endaweni yoko, untywila kolunye uthando. Aba bantu bahlala beveza umonzakalo wabo ongasonjululwanga kunye nomthwalo wabo weemvakalelo kwiqabane elitsha ngaphandle kwesizathu esibambekayo.

ukungazithembi

Abantu abangazithembiyo banokuziva bengakhuselekanga kubudlelwane kuba bengakholelwa ukuba balufanele uthando nenkxaso yeqabane labo.

Amava okungcungcuthekiswa, ukugezelwa, okanye ukuphathwa gadalala ngumkhathaleli athumela umyalezo wokuba wahlukile yaye ungumntu ombi. La mava aya kwandisa ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye aphembelele ubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho langoku.

Ukuxhalaba kwenza njengesiprofeto esizizalisekisayo, kwaye ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumlingane wakho kunokubangela ukuba wenze ngokuzikhusela kwaye umtyhale.

ukungahoywa okanye ukuphathwa kakubi

Abantu abaye bafumana ukungahoywa okungapheliyo okanye ukuxhatshazwa okungapheliyo badla ngokuziva bengakhuselekanga kubudlelwane babo kuba iimfuno zabo azifane zifezekiswe ngokupheleleyo.

Nangona kunjalo, ulwalamano olunjalo aluqinisekiswanga okanye lunikezelwe ngokukhululekileyo kwixesha elidlulileyo, okwandisa uloyiko lokulahlekelwa.

ixhala loluntu

Abantu abaninzi bafumana inqanaba elithile loxinzelelo lwentlalo ngexesha leentlanganiso, amatheko, imihla, kunye neendibano ezinkulu, kodwa kwabanye abantu kunokuba nzima kakhulu, kuchaphazele ukuzithemba kwabo kubudlelwane.

Ukuxhalaba ekuhlaleni kukwenza uzigxeke kakhulu kwaye kwenza kube nzima ukuthemba izenzo kunye neenjongo zabanye.

ukoyika ukwaliwa

Ukoyika ukwaliwa kunokubangela iimvakalelo zokungakhuseleki kubudlelwane. Abanye abantu baziva benovelwano xa bechaswa ngenxa yokungazithembi. Nokuba ukoyisakala kuncinci okanye ukuthukwa kunokubangela ukuxhalaba kunye noloyiko lwabo olukhulu. Kwelinye icala, ukuzingisa ngenxa yamava okusilela kunokwakha ukuzithemba nokunciphisa ixhala.

iziphumo zokuxhalaba

Ngezantsi, siza kuchaza ukuba ixhala alichaphazeli njani impilo yakho yengqondo kuphela, kodwa nobudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho.

Impembelelo kwimpilo yengqondo

Ukuxhalaba kuchaphazela impilo yakho yengqondo. Ngenxa yokuba eyona nto iphambili kuyo, bakholelwa ukuba abafanelekanga okanye abafanelekanga. Oku kuya kuchaphazela ubudlelwane bakho bothando kunye nobudlelwane kunye nabahlobo, oogxa, abantwana kunye nosapho.

Uhlala uthandabuza ukuxabiseka kwakho, unokwamkela ukuphathwa kakubi okanye ukuphathwa kakubi kwabanye, kwaye ubudlelwane bunokomeleza ukholo lwakho lokuba awunto yanto.

Impembelelo kubudlelwane

Ukuxhalaba kuchaphazela ubudlelwane ngokudala ukungalingani. Uye uxakeke koko iqabane lakho lingakunikiyo kwaye endaweni yoko ufuna isiqinisekiso kunye nokuqinisekiswa kokungaqiniseki kwakho.

Uqala ukucinga ngomnye umntu kungekhona njengolingana, kodwa njengento yokunciphisa ukungakhuseleki kwakho.

Amacebo okuthomalalisa ixhala

Sicebisa ezinye izicwangciso zokukunceda ukuba ujongane nobudlelwane kwaye uzive ukhuselekile ngakumbi.

• Chonga izinto ezikubangelayo. Ziqaphele ngakumbi iimeko ezikwenza ube nexhala. Uyakwazi ukulandelela izihloko kunye neendawo ezikubangela ukuba ube nexhala kwaye uqale ukuchonga imiba ekufuneka usebenze kuyo.
• Nxibelelana neqabane lakho. Zibandakanye kunxibelelwano oluvuleleke ngakumbi malunga nokungakhuseleki kwakho, ukuba kwenzeka njani kubudlelwane bakho, kunye nendlela ongaqala ngayo ukujongana nayo.
• Zama ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakho ngaphandle kokugxeka omnye umntu ngokuvakalisa iimvakalelo zakho. Umzekelo, endaweni yokuthi ``Undenza uxinzelelo ngenxa yokuba...'', yithi ``Ngamanye amaxesha ndiba noxinzelelo ngenxa yokuba...''.
• Mamela into ethethwa ngomnye umntu Zama ukuqonda imbono yomnye umntu ngokumamela ngokunyanisekileyo kwinto abayithethayo.
• Bhala idayari Xa uziva unexhala, ukugcina idayari ukubhala phantsi iingcinga zakho kungasebenza. Lo msebenzi uza kukunceda uchonge iimeko ezibangela unxunguphalo lwakho. Ukubhala kwijenali njengesibini kunokwenza nzulu ukuthembana phakathi kwenu nobabini.
• Cinga ngokubona ugqirha. Ingqiqo kunye nonxibelelwano oluvulekileyo lubalulekile, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ufuna imbono yangaphandle eqeqeshiweyo ukuze uqonde ngokupheleleyo ukuba ixhala lakho libotshelelwa njani kwizinto ezinzima ngakumbi. Kunoko, ugqirha unokusebenza nawe ukujongana nokukhathazeka kwakho.

ukuququmbela

Ukuhlala nexhala kunokuba nzima kwaye kubangele i-nerve-wracking. Abantu basenokungasaziva befanelwe luthando nenyameko, yaye ulwalamano lusenokungaphumeleli. Ukuba awulithembi iqabane lakho okanye ubudlelwane bakho, unokubandakanyeka ekuziphatheni okungenampilo okunokonakalisa ubudlelwane bakho.

Ngokuthatha ixesha lokuqonda ukuxhalaba kwakho, ukuvuleleka malunga nendlela oziva ngayo, kwaye ufune uncedo lobuchwephesha ukuba luyimfuneko, unokulwa noxinzelelo kwaye wakhe ubudlelwane obunempilo.