Kana ukaguma wava kufambidzana nomumwe munhu anonetseka, ndokwomuzvarirwo kunzwa uchizvidya mwoyo. Kuona mumwe munhu achizvidya mwoyo kunogona kuita kuti unzwe wakagumbuka uye uchizvidya mwoyo, ungave uchizvidya mwoyo kana kuti kwete.
Unogonawo kunetseka nezveramangwana rehukama hwenyu. Kushushikana kwemumwe wako kunokanganisa sei hupenyu hwenyu hwemazuva ese muri pamwe? Chii chaunofanira kuita kana ukatanga kuva nekuzvidya mwoyo spirals kana panic attack? Unogona kuzvibata here?
Ngatitarisei ins uye kunze kwekufambidzana nemumwe munhu ane kuzvidya mwoyo, kusanganisira zvaunoda kuziva pamusoro pezvinetso zvekuzvidya mwoyo, kuti zvinokanganisa sei hukama hwako hwepedyo, uye kuti ungatsigira sei munhu ane kuzvidya mwoyo.
Tora nguva yekudzidza nezvematambudziko ekufunganya
Kana uri kufambidzana nomumwe munhu ane kuzvidya mwoyo, chimwe chezvinhu zviri nyore uye zvinotsigira kuita ndezvekudzidza zvishoma nezvekuzvidya mwoyo uye kusagadzikana.
Vazhinji vedu tine pfungwa iyi yekuti zvatiri kutyira zvingasaenderana nezviripo, saka zvinobatsira kujekesa izvozvo. Kunzwisisa kufunganya kunoitawo kuti uwedzere kunzwira tsitsi.
Kupararira
Kutanga, zvakanaka kuziva kuti kuzvidya mwoyo kwakawanda uye anenge munhu wose achasangana nechirwere chekuzvidya mwoyo pane imwe nguva muupenyu hwavo.
Sangano reNational Institute of Mental Health rinofungidzira kuti 19% yevanhu vakuru vakasangana nedambudziko rekuzvidya mwoyo mugore rapfuura, uye 31% yevanhu vakuru vachasangana nechirwere chekuzvidya mwoyo munguva yehupenyu hwavo. Uyezve, hosha dzokufunganya dzinonzi dzinozivikanwa zvikuru muvakadzi kupfuura varume.
Kuva nechirwere chekuzvidya mwoyo hakusi utera, uye hakukonzerwi nesarudzo dzisina kunaka. Kuzvidya mwoyo haisi nyaya yekufungidzira kwako chete.
Vanhu vane kuzvidya mwoyo kazhinji vane genetic predisposition, uye kushungurudzika kunowanzo mhanya mumhuri. Zvinhu zvakatipoteredza uye kusaenzana kwemakemikari zvinogonawo kuita basa.
zviratidzo
Kuzvidya mwoyo kunozviratidza zvakasiyana mumunhu mumwe nomumwe. Haasi munhu wose anotambura nekuzvidya mwoyo anoonekwa se "munhu ane kutya". Vamwe vanhu vanonzwa kushushikana vanogona kutaridzika vakadzikama kunze, asi mukati vanonzwa zvimwe zviratidzo.
Kune vamwe vanhu, kufunganya kunogona kuita kuti hupenyu hwezuva nezuva huve hwakaoma zvakanyanya, nepo vamwe vachirarama nemhando yepamusoro inoshanda yekushushikana.
Zviratidzo zvekuzvidya mwoyo zvinogona kuva mumuviri, mupfungwa, uye mupfungwa. Zviratidzo zvekuzvidya mwoyo zvinosanganisira:
- kukurumidza kurova kwemwoyo
- Kutadza kufema
- Ziya
- kuda kurutsa
- Ndine dumbu rakashata
- kushushikana kwemhasuru
- Pfungwa pamujaho
- kutya kana pfungwa yekuparadzwa kuri kuuya
- Mhedzisiro yezviitiko zvinoshungurudza kana zvakaoma
- kushaya hope
- hope dzakaipa
- Handigoni kuramba ndakanyarara
- obsessions uye kumanikidzirwa
mhando dzekuzvidya mwoyo
Zvakanakawo kuziva kuti kune marudzi akati wandei ekusagadzikana kwepfungwa. Somuenzaniso, havasi vanhu vose vane kuzvidya mwoyo vachasangana nekutya kwekutya. Uyezve, vamwe vanhu vane dambudziko rekuzvidya mwoyo vane dambudziko rekushamwaridzana, asi vamwe havadaro. Zvose zvinoenderana nerudzii rwechirwere chekuzvidya mwoyo chaunacho uye kuti unozviona sei.
Ndiro dambudziko rinonyanya kunetsa rekufunganya.
- generalized kusagadzikana kusagadzikana
- panic disorder
- kutya (phobia)
- Agoraphobia
- kuparadzana kunetseka kusagadzikana
Nzira yekutsigira mumwe wako nekunetseka
Kana iwe uri pedyo nemunhu ane chirwere chekuzvidya mwoyo, unogona kunzwa usingazivi kuti chii chaunofanira kuita. Vanoziva kuti kazhinji zvavari kusangana nazvo hazvina musoro uye maonero avanoita chokwadi anogona kunge asina kunyatsokwana. Uri kundiudza izvi? Ungaita sei kuti mumwe munhu anzwe zviri nani pasina kuderedza manzwiro ake?
Pane zvinhu zvekongiri zvaunogona kuita kugadzira "nzvimbo yakachengeteka" kune vanhu vari kunzwa kunetseka. Heano mamwe mazano.
Ziva kuti hauna kuremara
Mupfungwa dzako uye mukudyidzana kwako nemumwe munhu, edza kufunga nezvechirwere chefunganyo chemumwe munhu chakasiyana nechako. Kunyange zvichiwedzera ruvara kuhupenyu, hurema, kwete mamiriro.
Vanhu vane kuzvidya mwoyo zvakanyanya kudarika kufunganya kwavo, uye imwe nzira yetsitsi ndeyekuvabata sevanhu vanozove vane chirwere chekuzvidya mwoyo.
rega kupa mhosva
Kuzvidya mwoyo kune genetic, biochemical, uye zvakatipoteredza zvikamu, saka yeuka kuti mumwe wako haana kusarudza kunzwa nenzira iyi. Zvakare, kufunganya hachisi chinhu chaunombundira kuti unyengedze vanhu kana kukanganisa zvirongwa zvako.
Nekudaro, kusagadzikana kwekufunganya hachisi chinhu chaunogona kudzora.
Hwisisa kuti pane zvimwe zvinokonzeresa
Nzira yakanakisa yekubata nekushushikana kwemudiwa wako ndeyekunzwisisa zvinokonzeresa. Vanhu vane kufunganya vanowanzoziva zvazvinoita kuzviwana vari mumhepo yekushushikana.
Kunyange isu tisingakwanise kudzivirira kubva kune zvese zvinokonzeresa, zvinogona kubatsira kubatsira vanhu kuti vagare vakangwarira pavari. Iwe unogona zvakare kunzwisisa kuti nei kushushikana kwemumwe wako kuchiwedzera pane dzimwe nguva.
Iva muteereri ane pfungwa dzakavhurika
Chimwe chezvipo zvikurusa zvaunogona kupa mumwe munhu ari kunetseka ndechokumunzwira tsitsi uye kuteerera. Kugadzirisa kusagadzikana kwekuzvidya mwoyo kunogona kuve kuparadzanisa uye kunyadzisa.
Kuva nemumwe munhu wekutendeseka naye pamusoro pezvakaitika uye manzwiro ako kunogona kuva kwakanaka uye kunoporesa, kunyanya kana munhu iyeye akateerera netsitsi uye pasina kutonga.
Somuteereri, yeuka kuti zvakakosha kuvapo kune mumwe munhu, pane kupa mazano, mazano, kana kuedza "kugadzirisa" kana "kugadzirisa" chimwe chinhu.
Mazwi ekushandisa kana mumwe wako achinzwa kushushikana
Paunenge uchibatsira mumwe wako kutarisana nechiitiko chekuzvidya mwoyo, unogona kunge uri kurasikirwa nezvekutaura. Pamusoro pazvo, haudi kutaura chero chinhu chinoita kuti mumwe munhu awedzere kunetseka.
Heano mamwe mazano ezvekutaura munguva dzakadai.
- "Ndiri pano uye ndinonzwa."
- "Ndinoziva kuti unofara."
- "zvakanaka"
- "Chinhu chikuru kwauri izvozvi."
- “Ndinoziva simba rako”
- "Togara tese here?"
- "Ndiripo, hausi wega"
- "Pane zvandingaite here?"
zvinhu zvekusataura
Ukuwo, pane dzimwe nguva paunonzwa uchida kutaura chimwe chinhu chisingambobatsiri uye chingatoita kuti mumwe munhu awedzere kuzvidya mwoyo.
Pano tichasuma mhando dzezvinhu zvausingafaniri kutaura.
- “Hapana chekutya”
- “Hazvina musoro”
- "Dzikama!"
- "Ndiri kuvhunduka pasina chikonzero."
- "Izvi ndizvo zvandaizoita dai ndiri iwe..."
- “Zvauri kunzwa hazvina musoro”
- "Zvese zviri mumusoro mako."
Workaround
Tsvagiridzo yakaratidza kubatana pakati pekunetsekana kwekushushikana uye kuwedzera hukama kushushikana. Nekudaro, tsvakiridzo inoratidzawo kuti kubata kushushikana kuburikidza nekutaurirana uye rutsigiro kunogona kubatsira zvakanyanya.
Zvakakoshawo kuti unzwisise kuti kugadzirisa kushushikana kwemumwe wako hachisi chinhu chaunogona kuita wega. Kuve nerutsigiro rwehutano hwepfungwa kune vese mudiwa wako uye iwe pachako kunogona kubatsira zvakanyanya.
Kurudzira mumwe wako kuti abatsirwe
Kana kushushikana kwemumwe wako kusingakanganisi hukama hwenyu chete, asiwo hupenyu hwavo, unogona kufunga kumukurudzira kuti awane rubatsiro. Ndinoda kuigadzira zvine mutsa sezvinobvira kuti ndigone kuzvinzwira tsitsi.
Iwe unoda kuti mumwe wako azive kuti haafaniri "kugadziriswa," asi kuti kuwana rubatsiro kunogona kupa simba uye kwakanaka.
Mishonga miviri inoshanda zvakanyanya yekushushikana ndeye kurapa uye nemishonga. Kunyange zvazvo kurapa kwoga kuchibatsira vamwe vanhu, musanganiswa wekurapa nemishonga zvinowanzoshanda zvakanyanya.
Mishonga inonyanya kushandiswa kurapa kusagadzikana ndeye cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) uye exposure therapy. Mishonga inoshandiswa kurapa kusagadzikana inosanganisira anxiolytics yakadai sebenzodiazepines, antidepressants (SSRIs), uye beta-blockers.
Ronga manzwiro ako pamusoro pekunetseka kwemumwe wako
Kufambidzana nemunhu ane chirwere chekuzvidya mwoyo kunogona kuva kwakaoma, uye vanogona kuita zvechisimba kune zviri kuitika kwavari. Izvi zvakajairika uye zvinonzwisisika. Zvakakosha kutora nguva yekudzidzira kuzvitarisira uye kuzvinzwira tsitsi.
Kana ukaona zvichikuomera kutsungirira kana kuita zvisingabatsire kushushikana kwemudiwa wako, ungangoda kufunga nezvekuraira kana kurapwa.
Funga nezvekurapa kweboka
Kukurukurirana kunokosha kana iwe uri muukama nemunhu ari kutambura nechirwere chekuzvidya mwoyo. Dzimwe nguva rubatsiro rwekunze rwunogona kudiwa kugadzirisa nyaya dzekukurukurirana.
Muchiitiko ichi, kurapa kweboka uye kupa mazano kunogona kushanda. Iwe nemumwe munhu muchava akavhurika uye nekunzwisisa, uye muchadzidza nzira dzinoshanda dzekutaurirana.
mukupedzisa
Vamwe vevanonyanya kugadzira, vane hanya, uye vane rudo vanhu vane dambudziko rekuzvidya mwoyo, uye zvichida iwe uchasangana nemumwe munhu ane chirwere chekuzvidya mwoyo pane imwe nguva muupenyu hwako. Zvinogona kuva zvakaoma kufamba muukama nemunhu ane kuzvidya mwoyo, asi mibairo inogona kuva yakakura kana iwe ukaedza.
Kutaura zvazviri, kunzwisisa mumwe munhu ane kuzvidya mwoyo uye kudzidza nzira yekukurukurirana zvinobudirira kunogona kudzika chisungo pakati penyu vaviri uye kugadzira hukama hwakazara, hwepedyo hwepedyo. Usarega chirwere chako chekuzvidya mwoyo chichikutadzisa kutevera hukama hunovimbisa.
