Zoyenera kuchita mukakhala paubwenzi wosasangalala

Zingakhale zovuta kuvomereza, ngakhale kwa inu nokha, kuti simukukondwera ndi mnzanuyo. Kupanda chimwemwe kungabwere m’njira zosiyanasiyana, monga kumenyana kosalekeza, mtunda wokulirapo pakati pa inu nonse, kapena kuganiza mozama kuti chinachake sichili bwino.

Othandizana nawo omwe ali muubwenzi wosasangalala amakonda kukhala limodzi chifukwa amafuna kuti zinthu zibwerere momwe analili kapena chifukwa chofuna kusinthana wina ndi mnzake podzudzulana ndi kudzudzula.

Nkhaniyi ikufotokoza zomwe zimayambitsa ndi zotsatira za maubwenzi osasangalatsa, ndi malangizo ochokera kwa akatswiri a maganizo kuti asinthe.

zomwe zimayambitsa maubwenzi osasangalatsa

Izi ndi zina mwazomwe zimayambitsa kusasangalala m'maubwenzi.

• Kumamatira ku zakale. Kukumbukira zaka za golide ndi moyo wachikondi, pamene zinthu zinali zosavuta komanso zopanda nkhawa, zimayambitsa maubwenzi osasangalatsa. Anthu amamamatira ku zikumbukiro zotere ndipo amakana kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zawo kukhala ndi moyo m'masiku ano ndikuthetsa mikangano yomwe ilipo.
• Kuyesera kusintha wina ndi mzake Chinthu china chofunikira pa maubwenzi osasangalala ndi pamene okwatirana amayesa kusinthana. Winayo adzayamba kumverera ngati akuyenera kulungamitsa chisankho chilichonse ndi mayankho omwe apanga kwa munthu winayo.
• kukhala ndi zikhulupiriro ndi makhalidwe osiyanasiyana. Othandizana nawo omwe samagawana zikhulupiliro ndi zikhulupiliro zawo atha kukhala kuti adalumikizana bwino kumayambiriro kwaubwenzi, koma akamaphunzira zambiri za wina ndi mnzake komanso momwe amagwirira ntchito padziko lapansi, amatha kukumana ndi zovuta zambiri.
• Kudzimva Kukakamira Anzawo angamve ngati ali pachibwenzi. Mutha kumverera ngati mukuyenera kusankha pakati pa kukhala pachibwenzi kapena kupitilizabe kukula kwa mnzanu ndikukwaniritsa zolinga zanu.

Zotsatira za maubwenzi osasangalala

Pansipa, tikambirana momwe kusasangalala kumakhudzira maubwenzi.

• Kusautsika M'malingaliro Maubwenzi osasangalatsa amatha kuyambitsa kukhumudwa, kusakhutira, kukwiya, komanso kutopa kuposa chisangalalo.
• kukangana. Othandizana nawo amayamba kuyang'anana wina ndi mnzake kudzera m'malingaliro achipongwe, kusakhutira, ndi kutsutsa. M'malo mopeza pogona paubwenzi wawo, amayamba kudzipangira zida akamacheza ndi okondedwa awo. Kusemphana maganizo kapena thupi muubwenzi wosasangalatsa kumapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kukwaniritsa maudindo ndi maudindo ena.
• Kusiya chikhalidwe. Sikuti zimangowonjezera mikangano ndi mikangano mu maubwenzi, komanso zimakupangitsani kumva ngati mukuyang'anira zonse nokha. Mu maubwenzi osayenera, okwatirana amakhala adani ndipo winayo amayamba kusiya kuyesera kuti zinthu zikhale bwino.
• Kukhumudwa. Anthu amene ali m’maubwenzi opanda chimwemwe amakonda kupotoza zenizeni ndi kumamatira ku malingaliro a mmene zinthu ziyenera kukhalira. Khama lawo lopotoza zenizeni ndi kukana kuvomerezana momwe alili zimabweretsa kukhumudwa ndi kukhumudwa kosalekeza.
• kukhala negative. Maubwenzi amayamba kumva ngati cholemetsa, ndipo mphamvu zoipa zimalowetsa momwe mumayendera ntchito ndi maubwenzi ena.
  Amangoganizira mocheperako. Muubwenzi wosasangalatsa, mumatha kusayika patsogolo munthu winayo ndipo mukufuna kuthera nthawi yanu pazinthu zina ndi maubwenzi.
• Kuchepetsa ubwenzi. M'maubwenzi opanda chimwemwe, okwatirana amakonda kusapeza nthawi yokhala paubwenzi wakuthupi ndi wamalingaliro.
• Kuyankhulana ndi kugwirizana kwawonongeka. M’maubwenzi osakondwa, kulankhulana kumasokonekera kwambiri chifukwa okondedwa amalephera kuthetsa mavuto kapena kuthana ndi zokhumudwitsa. Mabwenziwa amatha kukhala ndi moyo wofanana chifukwa pali vuto lalikulu ndi kulumikizana kwenikweni.
• Ganizirani zakunja. Othandizana nawo amayamba kufunafuna chithandizo ndikukwaniritsa zosowa zawo kudzera mwa anthu ena ndi madera.

“Ngati muli paubwenzi wosasangalala ndipo mwapenda mtengo wake waubwenziwo, mwina mudzakhala osokonezeka.”

onjezerani maubwenzi osasangalatsa

Nazi njira zina zokozera ubale wanu.

• Dziwani chomwe chavuta. Choyamba, zindikirani zomwe sizikuyenda bwino muubwenzi wanu ndikusankha ngati zikusokoneza.
• Sankhani ngati ubale wanu ndi woyenera kupulumutsidwa. Muyenera kusankha ngati mukufuna kuyikapo mphamvu pakupulumutsa ubale wanu. Izi zimafuna kukhulupirika kumbali yanu ndipo zingakhale zovuta, makamaka ngati mwakhala ndi nthawi yochuluka muubwenzi ndipo mukuyembekeza kuti muyambenso kugwira ntchito monga kale.
• Lankhulani moona mtima ndi mnzanu. M’malo modzitchinjiriza ndi kudzudzula kapena kuimba mlandu ena, yambani kukhala osatetezeka. Gawani zomwe mukufuna kusintha muubwenzi wanu ndi zomwe mukuthandizira pazomwe zikuchitika. Kafukufuku akuwonetsanso kuti kusonyeza kuyamikira pafupipafupi m'maubwenzi kumapangitsa kuti onse awiri azikambirana za mavuto a ubale.
• Tiyeni tipeze yankho limodzi. Khalani okhazikika pa mayankho. Kumbukirani kuti inu ndi mnzanuyo mukugwirizana pa nkhaniyi. M’mawu ena, vuto likachitika, gulu liyenera kuganizira mmene lingathetsere vutoli. Musalole kuti mavuto akulekanitseni.
• Khalani ndi nthawi yochokapo. Zinthu zikakhala sizikuyenda bwino, kuchokapo kumakupatsani mwayi wotalikirana ndikuwunikanso ubale wanu. Podzipatula kwa wina ndi mzake, tikhoza kupanga njira yatsopano, kaya tokha kapena pamodzi. Nthawi yotalikirana imalola aliyense wa inu kukula, kupeza zomwe mukufuna, ndikudzisankhira nokha zomwe mukufuna kuti moyo wanu ukhale m'malo momangokhalira pachibwenzi chifukwa ndikosavuta.

Pomaliza

Muubwenzi wanu ndi mnzanu, pali zinthu zingapo zomwe zingakupangitseni kukhala osasangalala, zomwe zimabweretsa ululu, mikangano, kusamvana, ndi kukhumudwa. Zotsatira zake, maubwenzi amatha kuwonongeka, zomwe zingakhudze mbali zina za moyo wanu, monga ntchito.

Ngati simukukhutira ndi chibwenzi chanu, muyenera kuzindikira zomwe zikukuvutitsani, kambiranani ndi okondedwa wanu, ndipo bwerani ndi njira zothetsera. Ngati mukuwona ngati mukufuna thandizo, funsani thandizo kwa wokondedwa kapena yambani kuwonana ndi dokotala kapena mlangizi wamabanja.

Pamapeto pake, muyenera kusankha ngati ubale wanu ndi woyenera kupulumutsidwa. Kupatula nthawi kudzakuthandizani inu ndi mnzanuyo kukonza zinthu ndikupanga chisankho ichi.