Kodi kuledzera kwa chikondi ndi chiyani?

Kodi kuledzera kwa chikondi ndi chiyani?

Chizoloŵezi chachikondi ndi mkhalidwe umene munthu amayamba kukondana mosayenera ndi mokakamiza kwa bwenzi lake lapamtima.

Kugwa m'chikondi ndi malingaliro okongola omwe aliyense akuyenera kukhala nawo. Kukhala ndi munthu wokonda ndi kukondedwa ndi chinthu chomwe pafupifupi aliyense amafuna. Koma kukhala m’chikondi kungaonekere m’njira zosayenera. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, anthu ena amachita zinthu zachilendo ndiponso zopanda nzeru, ndipo nthawi zina amavulaza iwo eni komanso okondedwa awo.

Anthu omwe ali ndi zizolowezi zachikondi amavutikanso kupanga ndi kusunga maubwenzi abwino. Ngakhale zimawonedwa kawirikawiri m'maubwenzi okondana, chizolowezi chachikondi chimatha kuchitikanso mumitundu ina. Izi zitha kuchitika muubwenzi ndi abwenzi, ana, makolo, kapena anthu ena.

Anthu omwe ali ndi zizolowezi zotere nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi miyezo yosatheka ndi ziyembekezo za chikondi. Ngati sizikukwaniritsidwa, zimangowonjezera mkhalidwewo.

Nthawi zambiri amatsutsa kuti kuledzera kwa chikondi sikuyenera kuwerengedwa ngati matenda amisala. Komabe, ena amakhulupirira kuti anthu omwe ali ndi matendawa amakhala ndi zizindikiro zofooketsa.

Nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi chiyanjano chosayenera ndi wokondedwa wawo ndikuyesera kuwalamulira. Mofanana ndi zizolowezi zina, anthu omwe ali ndi zizoloŵezi zachikondi akhoza kusonyeza makhalidwe ndi zikhumbo zomwe sangathe kuziletsa. Komabe, ndi chithandizo choyenera ndi chisamaliro, mukhoza kuphunziranso makhalidwe osayenera ndi malingaliro okhudza chikondi ndi kuphunzira kupanga maubwenzi abwino, achikondi.

Zizindikiro za kuledzera kwa chikondi

Chizoloŵezi chachikondi chikuwoneka mosiyana pang'ono malinga ndi munthuyo. Chizindikiro chofala kwambiri cha chizolowezi chokonda chikondi ndi kutengeka kosayenera ndi munthu winayo, ndipo munthuyo amakhala ndi zizolowezi, monga kuyimba foni pafupipafupi kapena kuzembera.

Chizoloŵezi chachikondi nthawi zambiri chimadziwonetsera m'njira zotsatirazi:

• Kudzimva wotayika komanso kugonja pamene mnzanuyo palibe
• Kudzimva kukhala wodalira kwambiri bwenzi lako
• Kuyika ubale wanu ndi okondedwa wanu pamwamba pa maubwenzi ena onse m'moyo wanu, nthawi zina kunyalanyaza maubwenzi ena aumwini ndi achibale ndi abwenzi.
• Akakana zilakolako zake zachikondi, amavutika maganizo ndipo amayamba kukondana ndi wokondedwa wakeyo.
• Nthawi zonse amafunafuna maubwenzi okondana, ngakhale akuganiza kuti sangawathandize.
• Nthawi zonse ndimakhumudwa ndikakhala kuti ndilibe mnzanga kapena ndilibe chibwenzi.
• Kuvuta kusiya maubwenzi osayenera kapena owopsa.
• Kupanga zisankho zoipa motengera momwe mumamvera kwa mnzanu kapena wokondedwa wanu (mwachitsanzo, kusiya ntchito, kudula ubale ndi banja lanu).
• Mumaganizira za mnzanu kapena wokondedwa wanu kwambiri moti zimasokoneza moyo wanu wa tsiku ndi tsiku.

Pali zizindikilo zina zambiri za chizolowezi chachikondi zomwe mwina sindinazitchule pamwambapa. Izi zili choncho chifukwa zizindikiro zimasiyana mosiyanasiyana ndipo munthu aliyense amalankhula zakukhosi kwake. Mmene munthu amasankhira kufotokoza zakukhosi kwake zimaonekera mu zizindikiro zake.

Zizindikiro za kumwerekera kwa chikondi zimasiyananso kwambiri. Zizindikiro zina zimatha kuwoneka ngati zopanda vuto, monga kuyimba foni pafupipafupi, koma zina zimakhala zovulaza, monga kuzembera mnzako kapena kuletsa omwe mumacheza nawo.

Momwe mungadziwire chizolowezi chokonda chikondi

Kuledzera kwachikondi si matenda amisala omwe amadziwika ndi Diagnostic Manual of Mental Disorders.

Pakhala mkangano pakati pa azachipatala ndi anthu ammudzi kuti ngati vutoli liyenera kufotokozedwa ngati matenda enieni amisala. Izi zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta kuzizindikira kusiyana ndi matenda ena amisala omwe akhazikitsidwa.

Ngati inu kapena munthu wina amene mumamudziwa ali ndi vuto lachikondi, lankhulani ndi dokotala wanu za izo. Atha kukulozerani kwa psychotherapist yemwe angakuyeseni angapo ndikukufunsani mafunso angapo kuti muwone ngati chizolowezi chachikondi ndi njira yolondola yoganizira zovuta zanu.

Zifukwa za kuledzera kwa chikondi

Kafukufuku wochulukirapo akufunika kuti mumvetsetse chizolowezi chokonda chikondi ndikuzindikira zomwe zimayambitsa ndi zomwe zimayambitsa. Kafukufuku amene alipo akusonyeza kuti zinthu zosiyanasiyana, monga kupwetekedwa mtima ndi majini, zimatha kuyambitsa chizolowezi chokonda chikondi.

Kafukufuku wasonyezanso kuti pali kugwirizana pakati pa chisangalalo chimene mumamva mukakhala m’chikondi ndi zosangalatsa zimene anthu omwerekera ndi zinthu monga cocaine ndi mowa angakhale nazo.

Ofufuza anapeza kufanana kwa mmene anthu okondana ndi amene amagwiritsira ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo amachitira. Magulu onsewa amatha kukhala ndi chidaliro m'malingaliro, kukhumudwa, kukhumudwa, kutengeka maganizo, kukakamizidwa, ndi kulephera kudziletsa. Mukakhala m'chikondi, ubongo wanu umatulutsa mauthenga omveka bwino monga dopamine. Zofananazo zimachitika pakugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso kuledzera.

Zifukwa zina zodziwika bwino zomwe zimayambitsa vuto la chikondi ndi izi:

• Kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe zidasiyidwa kale
• kudziyang'anira pansi
• Munachitiridwa nkhanza m'maganizo kapena kugonana m'mbuyomu.
• Kodi munayamba mwakumanapo ndi chibwenzi chokhumudwitsa?
• Kugonjetsa zoopsa za ubwana
• Chithandizo cha chizolowezi chachikondi

Kuchiza chizolowezi chachikondi ndizovuta. Izi zili choncho chifukwa si matenda amisala omwe amadziwika padziko lonse lapansi, ndipo matenda ndi chithandizo chamankhwala nthawi zambiri amakhala pakufuna kwa dokotala kapena wochiritsa. Chizoloŵezi chachikondi chingathe kuyandikira monga chizolowezi china chilichonse. Kafukufuku wochulukirapo akufunika kuti adziwe momwe psychotherapy imagwirira ntchito pochiza chizolowezi chachikondi.

Cognitive Behavioral therapy (CBT) imagwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri pochiza chizolowezi. Mu CBT, wothandizira amagwira nanu kuti aulule malingaliro ovuta omwe amatsogolera ku zizolowezi.

Chifukwa kuledzera kwa chikondi sikudziwika ngati matenda amisala, pakadali pano palibe mankhwala omwe amagwiritsidwa ntchito pochiza. Komabe, ngati vuto lanu likuchitika limodzi ndi vuto lina, monga nkhawa kapena kupsinjika maganizo, dokotala wanu akhoza kukupatsani mankhwala kuti athetse zizindikiro za matenda omwe akuchitika.

Kafukufuku akuwonetsanso kuti nthawi zina za chizolowezi chachikondi, madokotala amatha kupereka mankhwala ochepetsa kupsinjika ndi zolimbitsa thupi kuti athe kuthana ndi zizindikiro za kutengeka mtima komanso kuchita zinthu mopupuluma.

Momwe mungathanirane ndi chizolowezi chachikondi

Chimodzi mwazinthu zovuta kwambiri pothana ndi chidakwa chachikondi ndikuvomereza kuti muli ndi vuto.

Anthu ambiri omwe ali ndi zizolowezi zachikondi sangamvetsetse chifukwa chake kufotokoza zakukhosi kwawo kwa wokondedwa wawo kapena mdani wawo ndi vuto.

Ngati muwona zizindikiro za chizolowezi chachikondi, lankhulani ndi wothandizira zaumoyo wanu mwamsanga. Ndi chithandizo choyenera ndi chisamaliro, mukhoza kuyamba kupeza njira zabwino zosonyezera chikondi chanu.

Ngati mwayamba chizolowezi chokonda chikondi, nawa malangizo okuthandizani kuthana ndi vuto lanu mukafuna chithandizo.

• Phunzirani kukhala nokha. Ngati mulibe mnzanu wokondana naye panthawi yomwe mukudwala, zingakhale bwino kutenga nthawi kuti mukhale nokha. Dziwani zifukwa ndi zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti mukhale ndi chizoloŵezi choledzeretsa, pita patsogolo pa chithandizo, ndiyeno yambitsani ubale watsopano.
• Dziwani zobwerezabwereza. Anthu omwe ali ndi zizolowezi zachikondi nthawi zambiri amawonetsa machitidwe ofanana ndi omwe ali pachibwenzi. Yang'anani m'mbuyo maubwenzi anu akale ndikuwona ngati pali machitidwe ofanana.
• Dziperekeni nokha Kupeza nthawi yodzikuza ndi njira yabwino yodzikonda. Mukakhala okonda chikondi, nthawi zambiri mumanyalanyaza zofuna zanu.
• Dalirani anzanu ndi achibale. Zingakuthandizeni kugawana nawo kulimbana kwanu ndi matendawa ndi omwe amakukondani ndi kukusamalirani.
• Lowani nawo gulu lothandizira. Chinthu cholimbikitsa kwambiri pakukhala ndi matenda aliwonse ndikudziwa kuti simuli nokha komanso kuti palinso ena omwe akukumana ndi mavuto omwewo. Mukalowa gulu lothandizira, mumakumana ndi anthu otere. Mukhozanso kulankhula ndi anthu amene agonjetsa vutoli.

Pomaliza

Ngati mukuganiza kuti mutha kukhala pachibwenzi, dziwani kuti simuli nokha. Nkhani yabwino ndiyakuti akatswiri azamisala angakuthandizeni kuphunzira kukhala ndi ubale wabwino ndi inuyo komanso anthu ena.