Kuthamangira kumalo a chigololo! Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani mukaona chinyengo?

Nditamva kuti, ``Ndinaona munthu wina akundibera!'' Ndinaganiza kuti ndi nkhani yotchuka ya m'sewero, koma ndi zimene zimachitikanso m'moyo weniweni. Mukaona mnzanu akubera kapena akuchita chibwenzi, mwina mungamve ngati mulibe kanthu komanso mukumva chisoni. Zimenezi n’zodabwitsa kwambiri kwa anthu amene ankakhala mosangalala osadziŵa kuti mnzawoyo amawanyenga. Komabe, tinganenenso kuti kudziwa kuti mnzanu wakhala akukunyengererani ndi bwino kusiyana ndi kupitiriza kukhala ndi mnzanuyo chinyengo pa inu. Kubera kapena kuchita zibwenzi kumawonetsa umunthu weniweni wa wokondedwa wanu, choncho ndi mwayi wabwino kuganiziranso za tsogolo la banja lanu ndi banja lanu.

Mukawona zochitika zachinyengo, mutha kutsimikizira kuti winayo akubera. Ponena za momwe mungachitire nazo pambuyo pake, kodi mumataya mtima, kulephera kuugwira mtima, ndikumenya mwachindunji wokondedwa wanu ndi munthu amene mukuchita naye chibwenzi kuti muchepetse kukhumudwa kwanu? Kodi mudzakonzekera kubwezera pamene mukuwatemberera mwamphamvu, kuti, “Sindidzakukhululukirani!”? cholakwika! Kumenyana ndi mlandu kumbali zonse ziwiri, choncho chiwawa ndi ziwopsezo sizili bwino! Nkhaniyi ikufotokoza zinthu zotsatirazi:

Ndiye, kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani kuti mulimbitse udindo wanu ndi kupezerapo mwayi pazochitika zamtsogolo?

Zoyenera kuchita mukamawona chibwenzi / chinyengo

Choyamba, khazikitsaninso mtima wanu

Anthu ambiri amatengeka mtima pongowona wokondedwa wawo ali pachibwenzi ndi munthu wina, koma chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pochitira umboni ndikukhala chete. Kuti mupange zisankho zoyenera ndikukonzekera zam'tsogolo, zimakhala zovuta kutero mutawona chibwenzi kapena kusakhulupirika, koma musataye kulingalira kwanu.

Dzifunseni kuti, “Kodi muli ndi chibwenzi chenicheni?”

Ngati ndinu munthu amene nthawi zonse mumakayikira mnzanuyo ndipo mumakayikira kuti mwina ali pachibwenzi, kungoona mnzanuyo ali ndi munthu wina yemwe si mwamuna kapena mkazi mnzanu kungakuchititseni kuganiza kuti, ‘Ayi, ali pachibwenzi ndi munthu wina. Mungadzifunse kuti, “Kodi akuberadi? Yang'anani mnzanuyo ndi munthu uyu kuti muwonetsetse kuti akubera. Ngati anthu awiri akuyenda limodzi, zimasonyeza kuti ali ndi ubwenzi wolimba. Ngati nonse mukupsompsonana mobwerezabwereza, kulankhulana mokoma, kukumbatirana, ndi khalidwe lina lopanda manyazi, ndiye kuti mukubera. Inde, palibe chifukwa choyang'ana ngati mukuwona nkhani yogonana ikuchitika. Ngakhale pamalo pomwe awiriwa ali maliseche pabedi, mungakhale otsimikiza kuti ali ndi chibwenzi.

Pezani umboni wachinyengo

Kuberako ndi mwayi wopeza umboni wotsimikizika. Gwiritsani ntchito kamera, chojambulira mawu, foni yam'manja, kapena chida china chokhala ndi zithunzi/kanema kuti mugwire nthawi yomwe nonse muli pachibwenzi. Ndikokwanira kujambula mokwanira kuti awulule zoti awiriwa ali pachibwenzi. Zili bwino ngakhale kamera yanu siichita bwino kwambiri.

Nthawi zonse muzinyamula foni yanu yam'manja ndi inu ngati njira yodzitetezera ngati mukupeza kuti mukubera. Mwanjira iyi, mutha kuyitulutsa nthawi yomweyo pakagwa ngozi, kotero itha kukhala yothandiza kusonkhanitsa umboni wakubera. Mukakhala ndi umboni wa kubera, nthawi yomweyo kusamutsa kwa PC anu ntchito kutengerapo mapulogalamu kupewa kutaya deta.

Lankhulani ndi mnzanu za chinyengo

Chifukwa chofunikira kwambiri chomwe wokondedwa amapitirizira kubera kapena kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndikuti ubalewu sudziwika. Ngati mumanamizira wokondedwa wanu kuti amabera ponena kuti, ``Ndakuwonani mukubera,' kapena ``ndinu woyipa,' pali mwayi woti mnzanuyo apepese, asiyane nanu, ndikuganiziranso za ubale wanu. . Kuwonjezela apo, pokamba za kunyenga ndi mnzanu, mungafotokoze ululu wanu wa m’maganizo mwa kunena kuti, ‘‘Ndinapusidwa!’’ kapena ‘‘Ndinapelekedwa! mudzakhala ndi chibwenzi m’tsogolo,’’ kapena ‘Lapani.’ Ngati mutero, ndikukhululukirani!” Muuzeni. Izi zingapangitse mnzanuyo kumva kuti ali ndi mlandu pa ubale wachinyengo / kusakhulupirika.

Mwa njira, kugona kumakuthandizani kuganiza modekha ndikukambirana zinthu ndi mnzanuyo, choncho ndi bwino kuti muyambe kukambirana zachinyengo mutapuma.

Kulankhula za "chilango" chokhudzana ndi chinyengo / kusakhulupirika

Musanayambe kukambirana, konzekerani chipangizo monga chojambulira mawu ndi kujambula nkhaniyo. Ndipo mukhoza kusankha pa “chilango”cho potengera maganizo a mnzanuyo.

Ngati winayo akumva kuti ali ndi mlandu chifukwa chobera kapena kuchita zibwenzi ndikupepesa mwamphamvu ponena kuti, ``Ndikunong'oneza bondo. akhululukireni osawalanga. Mnzake akakumana ndi zochitika zogwidwa akubera ndikumupeza ndi mnzake, sadzakhalanso ndi chibwenzi. Komanso, chochitika ichi chiyenera kulimbikitsa udindo wa munthu wokondedwa mu ubale wawo monga okondana ndi mwamuna ndi mkazi. Ngati udindo wanu ukhala wamphamvu, zimakhala zosavuta kuti mnzanuyo amve zopempha zanu zomwe mumakonda ndikuzikwaniritsa. Ngakhale mutapempha zinthu zomwe mukufuna kapena ndalama zowonjezera, mnzanuyo sangachitire mwina koma kukhutitsidwa pobwezera chinyengo pa inu.

Komabe, nthawi zina munthu winayo sapepesa ndipo amachita zachiwawa. Ngati simukufuna kulapa mwakachetechete, mutha kukambirana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu za kusudzulana, kugawa katundu, chithandizo cha ana, alimony, ndi zina zotero. Ngati n’kotheka, pezani zinthu monga utali wa nthawi imene munthu winayo wakhala akukuberani komanso kuti wakhala akukunyengani kangati. Chilichonse chokhudzana ndi kubera kapena zibwenzi zakunja zidzakhudza kuchuluka kwa alimony, kotero ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mulembe ndikusunga ngati umboni.

Sonkhanitsani umboni wamphamvu wachinyengo

Zithunzi, mavidiyo, mauthenga a mawu a munthu amene ali ndi chibwenzi / chinyengo (madeti, kugonana, ndi zina zotero), ndi zithunzi za iye akulowa ndi kutuluka m'mahotela achikondi ndi umboni wamphamvu wachinyengo. Zokambirana zokhudzana ndi chinyengo / kusakhulupirika zomwe zimayamba kuchokera pamalo ochitira chinyengo ndikuzichitira umboni ndi mwayi wofunikira kwambiri wopeza umboni wachinyengo. Chonde gwiritsani ntchito zida monga mafoni am'manja kuti mutenge umboni.