Zoyenera kuchita mukaganiza kuti simungathe kukhululukira chinyengo / kusakhulupirika kwa wokondedwa wanu

Mukazindikira kuti munakuberedwa, zingakhale zovuta kukhulupirira kuti wokondedwa wanu wakuperekani, ndipo simungathe kulamulira chisoni chanu ndi mkwiyo wanu. Sindingamukhululukire wokondedwa wanga chifukwa chondinyenga, koma nditani kuti ndithetse mkwiyo wanga? Ndivuto lomwe anthu ambiri akulimbana nalo.

Ngakhale simungakhululukire chinyengo, kuti muthane nazo bwino, muyenera kukhazika mtima pansi ndikuganizira mozama za zosankha zanu zamtsogolo. Nthawi zambiri mumatha kuziwona m'nkhani za kusakhulupirika. Akazi akadziŵa kuti amuna awo akubera, akazi ena amachita chiwawa, kuwawopseza, kapenanso kukonzekera kubwezera. Komabe, ngati mutachita zinthu monyanyira kuti muthetse chibwenzicho, mungakumane ndi mavuto. Ndimamvetsa mmene munthu wina akumvera chisoni, koma kubera kuyenera kuchitidwa mosamala.

Tsopano, maganizo anu akakhazikika, tiyeni tiganizire za kukonzekera tsogolo. Kodi mungasiyane ndi munthu amene anakunyengeni mwachindunji? Kapena, mutamulanga ndi malipiro amalipiro, kodi mukufuna kuti asakhalenso pachibwenzi kapena kukhudzana ndi inu? Makhalidwe achinyengo amasiyana munthu ndi munthu, choncho njira yothetsera vutoli imasiyananso munthu ndi munthu.

Sankhani momwe mungachitire malinga ndi momwe zinthu zilili

Anthu ena amaona kuti sangakhululukire mnzawo akadziwa kuti anaberedwa, koma sayenera kuchita zinthu mopupuluma mpaka atadziwa zoona zake. Ngati n'kotheka, ndi bwino kusankha momwe mungachitire ndi chifukwa chomwe wokondedwa wanu akubera. Kodi wokondedwa wanu adakunyengani chifukwa cha chilakolako chogonana? Kapena munali ndi chibwenzi chifukwa chakuti wina anakukakamizani kutero? Kudzifunira n'kofunika chifukwa chachinyengo. Ndi izi, mutha kutsimikizira chikhumbo cha wokondedwa wanu chofuna kukhala ndi chibwenzi, komanso kuyerekezera zochita zake zamtsogolo.

Chinthu china chosankha panthawi yowunikira ndi chakuti muli ndi vuto lachinyengo kapena ayi. Ndi vuto la mnzanu chifukwa chachinyengo, koma chifukwa cha kubera kungakhale mawu anu ndi zochita zanu, kapena kusowa kwanu kugonana kapena kuika patsogolo ntchito. Munthu wina akakuberani, ndi bwino kuganiza kuti, ‘Kodi ineyo ndi amene ndalakwadi?’ ndi kuona banja lanu ndi maubwenzi anu achikondi monga mmene mungathere.

Pambuyo popenda nkhani yachinyengo ndi ubale wachikondi pakati pa awiriwo, pangani chisankho chanu.

Kuchokera "Sindingakhululukire" mpaka "Ndikukhululukira ngati mupepesa."

Anthu ena amaganiza kuti sangakhululukire, koma akaona mnzake akupepesa koma akudziimba mlandu kwambiri chifukwa cha machimo awo ndipo zimawawa, ena amakhudzidwa mtima n’kukhululuka. Anthu amene anaberedwa angakwiyire komanso kukhumudwa osati chifukwa choberedwa, koma chifukwa chakuti winayo anawabera, koma amaganiza kuti zochita zawozo zinali zolakwika ndipo sakufuna kusinkhasinkha ndi kupepesa. Pamene mukuganiza kuti simungakhululukire wokondedwa wanu chifukwa chachinyengo, ganizirani ngati simungathe kumukhululukira ngakhale atapepesa bwino. Mwina kudzera mu mtima wodziimba mlandu ndi chisoni chifukwa cha kunyenga kwa wokondedwa wanu, mukhoza kuthetsa zowawa zanu.

Kuchokera ku "Sindingakhululukire" mpaka "Ndikhoza kukhululukira, koma ndiyenera kukonza"

Anthu ena amaganiza kuti, ``Ngati ndikhululukira munthu chifukwa chachinyengo, zidzakhala ngati sizinachitike, choncho sindingathe kuwakhululukira.' M'malo mwake, njira imodzi yochitira izi ndikuuza wokondedwa wanu kuti mumamukhululukira chifukwa chakubera, ndipo nthawi yomweyo nenani zikhalidwe zanu ndikuyesera kukonza moyo wanu wachikondi. Izi zitha kuonedwanso ngati chipukuta misozi chifukwa cha zowawa za kubedwa. Mutha kupanga malamulo, kulonjeza, kuwagulira mphatso, kapena kuwapempha kuti ayende nanu. Monga munthu amene adaberedwa, mutha kupereka zomwe mukufuna.

Sindingakhululukire basi

Chomwe muyenera kusamala nacho ndikuti kunena kuti "Sindingakhululukire" sikufanana ndi "kusweka." Nthawi zina simungakhululukire wokondedwa wanu koma kupitiriza chibwenzi chanu. Komabe, zikatero, kukhulupirirana pakati pa aŵiriwo kunasweka kale, ndipo ngakhale mutafuna kuyambiranso chibwenzicho, simungathe kuyambiranso zikondano zoyambazo.

Makamaka, ngati wokondedwa wanu sakuganiza kuti kunyenga ndi chinthu chachikulu ndipo sangathe kukhutitsidwa ndi chikondi chanu chokha, pali chiopsezo chachikulu kuti adzanyenganso m'tsogolomu pokhapokha atasintha maganizo. Choncho, ngati simungathe kuvomereza kuti mnzanuyo anakunyengererani, mukhoza kusankha kuthetsa kapena kusudzulana.

Osangosiya, perekani chilango chachinyengo

Ngati simungathe kuthetsa mkwiyo wanu mwa kungosiyana ndi munthu, bwanji osamulanga pomulanga chifukwa cha machimo ake m’malo mongomusiya? Ndizotheka kulengeza zachinyengo ndikupanga mkangano wapagulu, ndipo pankhani yaubwenzi wachigololo, ndizotheka kuyitanitsa alimony kuchokera kwa mnzake wachinyengo ndi kusudzulana kwa wokonda.

Inde, kuti mupemphe chipukuta misozi chifukwa cha chibwenzi, muyenera kukhala ndi umboni wa chibwenzicho, kotero kuti mutsimikizire kuti awiriwa achita chigololo, m'pofunika kufufuza nkhaniyo poyang'ana akaunti zawo za LINE kapena kujambula zithunzi za M'pofunika kuchita izi.

Mukathetsa nkhani yachinyengo, nonse awiri muyenera kupewa kulumikizana kuyambira pano, ndikudula kukhudzana kulikonse pa LINE kapena pafoni. M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, maganizowo adzazirala ndipo mwachibadwa ubwenziwo udzatha musanadziwe.

N’chifukwa chiyani ndi “chosakhululukidwa”?

Kodi mumamva kuwawa ngati mnzanu wakuperekani ndikukunyengani ndi munthu wina, ndiye kuti simungathe kumukhululukira? Kapena simungamukhululukire wokondedwa wanu chifukwa simungavomereze kuti adasankha bwenzi lonyenga lomwe ndi loyipa kuposa inu? Anthu ena sakonda chifukwa zinthu zawo zimatengedwa ndi ena. Ngakhale mutangonena kuti kubera n’kosaloleka, zifukwa zake zimasiyana munthu ndi munthu. Kunyengedwa ndi mwayi womvetsetsa malingaliro anu mozama.