Momwe mungathanirane ndi kunyengeredwa: Sankhani moyo wanu wamtsogolo ndi zosankha zanu

"Mwamuna wanga adandinyenga! Zowawa kwambiri, nditani?"

Tsopano popeza kubera kwasanduka nkhani yachitukuko, nthawi zambiri ndimawona mafunso ngati awa pa intaneti ya BBS ndi malo ena ochezera. Ndi kufalikira kwa mafoni a m'manja, Webusaiti, ndi SNS m'madera amakono, anthu omwe akufuna kukhala ndi chibwenzi amatha kupeza okondedwa omwe amawakonda pazibwenzi. Masiku ano, chiwerengero cha anthu amene amabera chikuchulukirachulukira, ndipo chiwerengero cha anthu amene akuda nkhawa kuti akubera chikuwonjezekanso.

Ndiye muyenera kuchita chiyani mutazindikira kuti wokondedwa wanu wakusandutsani? Nthawi zambiri, munthu amene adaberedwa alibe chochita koma kusankha pakati pa kupitiriza chibwenzi kapena kuthetsa chibwenzi. Komabe, mutangopanga chisankho, palibe chitsimikizo chakuti simudzaberedwanso. Kuphatikiza pa kupanga zosankha pa moyo wanu wamtsogolo, muyeneranso kuchitapo kanthu kuti mukhale ndi moyo wopanda chinyengo. Nkwachibadwa kumva kupsinjika maganizo kwambiri ngati wokondedwa wanu, amene mumamukhulupirira nthaŵi zonse, akunyengani, koma ndi nzeru kusankha njira yanu yamtsogolo modekha.

Nkhaniyi ikupereka zosankha za "kusathetsa" kapena "kusweka" ndipo ikuwonetsa njira zowonjezera moyo wanu wachikondi wamtsogolo kwa iwo omwe adaberedwa. Tikuwonetsani momwe mungapewere wokondedwa wanu kuti asachitenso chinyengo popanda kutha, kapena momwe mungakhalire mosangalala mpaka kalekale.

Ngati mwasankha kusathetsa banja: Sinthani ubale wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu ndikuletsa chibwenzi china

Pangani wokondedwa wanu kumva wolakwa chifukwa chachinyengo

Ngati munthu amene munamunyengererayo sadziona kuti ndi wolakwa chifukwa cha zolakwa zake, akhoza kukhala ndi chizolowezi chochita chinyengo komanso kukuchitirani chinyengo mobwerezabwereza. Chifukwa chake, chinyengo choletsa kubera ndikupangitsa wokonda kunyenga kuti anong'oneze bondo ndikuzindikira machimo awo.

Zindikirani ndikulingalira "zolakwa" zanu

Ngakhale munthu amene ananyengedwa sanganene kuti palibe cholakwika chilichonse. Ngati mukufuna kumanganso ubale wanu ndikuupangitsa kuti ukhale wautali kuposa kale, ndikofunikira kuphunzira kuchokera pazomwe mudakumana nazo m'mbuyomu. Maubwenzi achikondi omwe amasokonekera chifukwa cha kubera amakhala osalimba komanso ovuta kuwamanganso. Ngati mukufunabe kupulumutsa moyo wanu pamodzi, muyenera kuvomereza zolakwa zanu ndi mnzanu wakale ndikupita ku tsogolo lanu.

kulimbitsa ubale wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu

Ngakhale wokonda wanu alibe chikhumbo chilichonse kukhala ndi chibwenzi, pali chiopsezo kuti cheeky kunyenga mnzake ntchito zinachitikira chinyengo kunyengerera okondedwa wanu. Kuti mupewe kubedwa kwa wokondedwa wanu, muyenera kulankhulana pafupipafupi ndikudziwitsana kuti ``palibe amene angalowe m'malo mwanga.' Ngati ndi choncho, simudzanyenga wokondedwa wanu ngakhale mutasungulumwa, ndipo mudzakana mwaulemu kuitanako.

Ngati simungakhululukire wokondedwa wanu chifukwa chakukunyengererani, kusiya ndi njira imodzi.

Ngati mwasankha kuthetsa banja: Chokani mumkhalidwe woberedwa ndi kufunafuna moyo watsopano wachimwemwe

Chotsani ubale wanu wakale ndikuchepetsa kuwonongeka komwe kumachitika chifukwa chachinyengo

Ululu woberedwa ukhoza kusokoneza maubwenzi amtsogolo. Pali anthu ambiri amene amakana kuyambanso kukondana ndi munthu wina chifukwa chakuti anaberedwa. Ngati mudakali ndi chiyembekezo chodzadzabweranso m’tsogolo, ndi bwino kumathetsa chibwenzi ndi wokondedwa wanuyo mukadzathetsa chibwenzi, osalankhulananso kapena kuonananso mpaka nonse mutakhala pansi, ndipo yesetsani kuiwala zowawa za kubera. momwe mungathere pamene muli pa izo.

Pezani munthu amene sangakunyengereni ndikuyamikira ubale wanu wotsatira

Ngati wokondedwa wanu wakale anakunyengani, bwanji osachiritsa balalo ndi chikondi chenicheni? Ngati chikondi chanu choyamba chinatha moyipa chifukwa wokondedwa wanu adakunyengani, kuyambira pano, pezani munthu yemwe sangakunyengeni ndikusangalala ndi chikondi chanu ndi munthu wamalingaliro amodzi. N’zoona kuti kukhala wosangalala m’banja sikungotanthauza kukhala wokhulupirika, komanso n’zotheka kuti nonse awiri mudzakhala ndi nkhani zina osati kubera. Kuti ubale wanu wotsatira ukhale wabwino, phunzirani kuchokera ku maubwenzi anu akale ndikukhala munthu wodziwa zambiri zachikondi.

Ngati mwatopa ndi chikondi, yesani kukhala nokha

Miyoyo yawo imadzazidwa ndi chikondi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, ndipo amatha kusangalala ndi zochitika zapadera za chikondi, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo ayenera kuthetsa mavuto osiyanasiyana a maganizo. Ngati mwapusitsidwa, ngati mwatopa ndi moyo wanu ndi wokondedwa wanu ndipo mukufuna kupezanso ufulu wokhala wosakwatiwa, mukhoza kusiya maubwenzi opanda pake ndikupeza chisangalalo chokhala osakwatiwa kachiwiri.

Pangani zosankha zanu pamphambano za chikondi

Kodi mukufunabe kupitiriza kukhala ndi munthuyo? Kapena mukufuna kusiya ndikuyamba kucheza ndi munthu wina? Tiyeni titengerepo mwayi pa mfundo yakuti munapusitsidwa kuti muganizirenso za ubale wanu wachikondi ndi wokondedwa wanu. Pambuyo poganiza mozama, mumasankha kusankha komwe simudzanong'oneza bondo chifukwa cha chimwemwe chanu chamtsogolo ndikuyamba moyo watsopano.