Kubera kungachiritsidwe! Momwe mungachiritse khalidwe lachinyengo la wokondedwa wanu

Nthawi zambiri anthu amanena kuti chinyengo ndi matenda osachiritsika, koma ena amaganiza kuti zimenezi ndi zabodza. Pali anthu ambiri amene panopa akulimbana ndi mnzawo kubera zizolowezi, kotero kubera ndithu si vuto kuti angathetsedwe mosavuta.

Choncho, musanayese kuchiritsa wokondedwa wanu wachinyengo, choyamba muyenera kukonzekera kuti ``chinyengo sichapafupi kuchiza. Chifukwa chake n’chakuti wokonda mwiniwakeyo sakufunanso kuchita chibwenzicho, koma akhoza kukhumudwa chifukwa chakuti wamva kukongola kwake. Ziribe kanthu momwe mungafune kuchiza chizoloŵezi chachinyengo cha munthu amene mumamukonda, ndi ``matenda'' omwe sangachiritsidwe mosavuta ngakhale ndi wachinyengo mwiniwake, kotero ngati munthu amene adaberedwa, ndikofunikira kwambiri yesetsani kwambiri kuchiza matendawa.

Komanso, dziwani kuti ``anthu ambiri amene anabera kamodzi amaberanso, ndipo ndi anthu ochepa okha amene amachira ku chizolowezi chachinyengo. Njira yabwino yothanirana ndi kubera ndi kupewa kubera koyamba ndikupewa kubera mtsogolo. Ngati n'kotheka, yesetsani kuteteza wokondedwa wanu kuti asachite chinyengo, ndipo yesetsani kumuletsa kuti asachite chinyengo ngakhale kamodzi, ndipo ngakhale atakunyengererani, yesetsani kuti zisadzachitikenso.

Komabe, ngakhale wokonda wanu atakhala wosakhulupirika, musataye mtima ndikuyesera kuchiza kusakhulupirika kwa mnzanu momwe mungathere. Chonde khulupirirani kuti chikondi chapakati pa awirinu sichingagonjetsedwe mwachinyengo. Kuti tikuthandizeni, tikudziwitsani zomwe zimayambitsa kubera komanso njira zina zomwe muyenera kuyesa.

zifukwa zachinyengo

Kusadziimba mlandu mokwanira pakuchita chinyengo

Anthu amene amabera mobwerezabwereza nthawi zambiri sazindikira kuti sayenera kubera kapena kuti kubera ndi tchimo. Kapena, anthu ena amaganiza kuti kubera n’koipa, koma chifukwa chakuti wokondedwa wawo amawakhululukira nthawi yomweyo, amaganiza kuti si nkhani yaikulu. Ngati simuchita bwino pamene wina akuberani, wokondedwa wanu sangadzimve kuti ndi wolakwa chifukwa cha khalidwe lake lachinyengo kapena sangaganize kuti zomwe akuchitazo ndi zachinyengo. Pamapeto pake, wokonda wanu adzagwira zizolowezi zanu zachinyengo ndikuyamba kukunyengererani.

Osakonzekera chikondi kapena ukwati

Pamene okwatirana akupita patsogolo kuchokera ku moyo umodzi kupita ku moyo wa chikondi / ukwati ndi anthu awiri, wokonda angamve kuti ataya ufulu wawo, ndipo angafune kubwerera ku moyo wosakwatiwa kumene anali omasuka kuti azikhala moyo wawo. Choncho, ngati akumva kuti ali omangidwa ndi wokondedwa wawo, akhoza kunyenga nthawi zambiri, pogwiritsa ntchito njira yochepetsera nkhawa ndikudzimasula okha ku maunyolo a wokondedwa wawo.

Ubale wanga ndi munthu amene ndimamukonda wakhala wokhazikika.

Ngati anthu awiri amasangalala ndi chikondi champhamvu poyamba, koma maganizo awo pang'onopang'ono amatha ndipo ubale wawo umakhala wokhazikika, izi zikhoza kukhalanso pamene wokonda amayamba kunyenga mobwerezabwereza. N'zotheka kuti wokondedwa wanu sakukondani mokwanira ndipo amakonda "kutentha kwa chikondi" pamene ali ndi inu. Ngati ubale wa awirinu uli wokhazikika ndipo mwapeza chikondi, mudzakhalabe ndi zomverera za inu, koma wachikondi wanu amakumana ndi kutentha kwa chikondi mobwerezabwereza chifukwa akufunanso chikondi chosangalatsa. , pali kuthekera kwakukulu kuti mudzanyenga mobwerezabwereza.

Chinyengo chasanduka chizolowezi

Anthu amene sanachite chinyengo samamvetsa kukoma kwa chinyengo, choncho sanyenga okha. Komabe, ngati munanamizidwapo kale, munamvapo kukongola kwa chinyengo, choncho ngakhale mutakhala kuti mukuipidwa, nkosavuta kugonja m’mayesero ndi kupitirizabe kuchita chinyengo. Pamapeto pake, kubera kumakhala chizolowezi ndipo ngakhale mutafuna, zidzakhala zovuta kuchotsa.

Momwe mungachiritsire chinyengo

Mayankho amasiyanasiyana malinga ndi chifukwa cha kusakhulupirika. Mvetserani chifukwa chake wokondedwa wanu akubera, ndiyeno chitanipo kanthu kuti muchiritse.

kupangitsa munthu kudzimva wolakwa chifukwa chachinyengo

Anthu amene sadziona kuti ndi olakwa pakuchita chinyengo samangokhalira kuchita zachinyengo, koma ngakhale atadziwa kuti akubera, amawakhululukira ponena zinthu monga ``Kubera ndi chikhalidwe! 'Amuna ndi akazi ndi zolengedwa zachinyengo!'' Fotokozerani kuopsa kwa kunyenga kwa wokonda woteroyo ndi mawu onga akuti ``Kubera ndi tchimo lalikulu, '' `Kubera ndi chinthu choipa kwambiri,'' ``Sindifuna kuberedwa,'' ``Ndiwe woyipa kuchita zinthu ngati zimenezo,'' ndipo mupangitse mnzanuyo kumva kuti ali ndi mlandu chifukwa chachinyengo.

Onetsani chikondi mwachangu

Ngati wokondedwa wanu akukuberani chifukwa malingaliro anu adakhazikika, yesani kusintha momwe mumaonera chikondi ndikuwonetsa chikondi chanu mwachangu kuposa kale kuti mubweze mtima wa wokondedwa wanu. Kodi wokondedwa wanu ankafuna chiyani kwambiri muubwenzi? Ganizilani izi, chonde. Chochitika chosangalatsa komanso chodabwitsa? Wokondedwa wokongola? Kapena kodi moyo wanu wachikondi/waukwati ndi wosangalatsa kuposa moyo wanu wosakwatiwa? Ngati mumayerekezera zofuna za wokondedwa wanu ndikuzikwaniritsa, wokondedwa wanu sayenera kudzikhutiritsa mwa kunyenga, ndipo mwachibadwa mudzachotsa zizolowezi zake zachinyengo.

Sinthani maganizo anu pamene akunamizidwa

Anthu ena amakonda mnzawo, choncho zimawawa kuti akunyengerera, koma amawakhululukira nthawi yomweyo. Komabe, mtima wokoma mtima ndi wololera udzalimbikitsa wokondedwa wanu kunyenga, kotero ngati mukupusitsidwa, ndi bwino kuti musinthe maganizo anu kuti muwonetse kusakhutira kwanu ndi ululu wanu. Ngati wokondedwa wanu akuchitiridwa nkhanza ndi inu, pali kuthekera kuti angaganizire zachinyengo chake ndikuchigwiritsa ntchito ngati mwayi kuyesa kuchiza khalidwe lake lachinyengo.

auzeni mtengo wachinyengo

Anthu ena amakopeka kwambiri ndi kubera moti samvetsa zimene anthu amaletsa kuchita chinyengo. Pa nthawiyo, mulole munthu winayo aganizire za mtengo wachinyengo powauza mtengo umene ayenera kulipira. Ngakhale wokondedwa wanu atanyalanyaza malingaliro anu ndikusangalala ndi chibwenzicho, ngati muwonetsa khalidwe lanu lachinyengo kwa omwe akuzungulirani, wokondedwa wanu akhoza kutsutsidwa kwambiri ndikuloledwa chifukwa chachinyengo / kusakhulupirika. Izi zidzakuthandizani kuti mupindule pokambirana za kubera ndi wokondedwa wanu, kuwapangitsa kuti aganizire za khalidwe lawo lachinyengo, ndikuwathandiza kuchiza zizolowezi zawo zachinyengo.

Kuika malire chifukwa cha kusudzulana kapena kupatukana

`Ngakhale utabera, palibe chifukwa choti mnzanuyo akukhululukirani!'' Kuti mupangitse mnzanuyo kuzindikira kuti ndinu wofunika bwanji, ikani malire mwa kusudzulana kapena kupatukana! Ukanena kuti, ``Ukandinyenganso, ndisiya!', wachikondi wakoyo angayambe kuchiza chizoloŵezi chake chachinyengo chifukwa amakusowa ndipo sangakulole kupita. Ndi chanzerunso kugwiritsa ntchito izi ngati mwayi wopewa kubera kuti zisachitikenso pokhazikitsa malamulo ndikusinthana ndi mnzanu.

Sindingathe kusiya chizolowezi changa chobera

Ngati simungathe kuchiza khalidwe lachinyengo la wokondedwa wanu, mukhoza kusankha ``kupitiriza chithandizo'' ndikupitiriza kuchiza, kapena mukhoza kusankha `` kuzisiya momwe zilili'' ndikukhala munthu wamkulu wokwanira kuyika. kulimbana ndi chinyengo cha wokondedwa wako.

Komabe, ngati mulibe chiyembekezo muubwenzi wanu wamakono ndipo simukufunanso kukhala ndi wokondedwa wanu, musaiwale kuti ``kutha'' kapena ``kusudzulana' ndi njira inanso. Njira inanso ndiyo kuthetsa chibwenzicho, kenako n’kuyamba kucheza ndi munthu amene saonera.