Kodi mulipodi? Makhalidwe a anthu omwe samabera

Zingakhale zovuta kwambiri ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu atakunyengererani pamene muli m'chikondi. Aliyense ankafuna chibwenzi/msungwana yemwe sangabere, koma kodi mtundu woterewu ulipodi? Poyamba, mungaganize kuti mwamuna wanu sadzakunyengererani, koma chifukwa cha kusintha kwa mtima, si zachilendo kuti azitha kukunyengererani pazifukwa zomwe simungathe kuziganizira.

Koma musataye mtima. Sindinganene kuti simudzabera, koma padziko lapansi pali anthu omwe amakonda kusabera. Nkhaniyi ifotokoza makhalidwe a anthu osabera komanso mmene angawalekanitse.

Makhalidwe a mwamuna yemwe samabera

Mwamuna yemwe alibe zambiri zogonana

Nanga n’cifukwa ciani mwamunayo anayamba kunyenga? Nthawi zambiri ndi chifukwa cha chilakolako chogonana. Ngati mwamuna yemwe ali ndi chilakolako champhamvu cha kugonana sakhutira ndi kugonana yekha, kapena ngati sagonana chifukwa cha kusagwirizana kapena ubale wautali, pali kuthekera kwakukulu kuti achite chinyengo.

Mwa kuyankhula kwina, ngati mwamuna wakhutitsidwa ndi kugonana ndi chibwenzi chake, sakhala ndi mwayi wocheza ndi akazi ena ndipo mwadala amafunafuna akazi ena kuti agonane. Ndizovuta kuweruza chilakolako cha kugonana cha mwamuna chifukwa cha maonekedwe ake, koma amuna omwe ali ndi makhalidwe abwino komanso okhudzidwa nthawi zambiri samawoneka kuti ali ndi chilakolako champhamvu chogonana.

Komabe, ngati mwamuna alibe chilakolako champhamvu cha kugonana, sangakhale wotanganidwa kwambiri mu maubwenzi achikondi pakati pa amuna ndi akazi, kotero pamene ali pachibwenzi ndi mtundu woterowo, akazi ayenera kukulitsa ubale wachikondi popanda kuthamanga.

Mwamuna amene amaganiza kuti kubera ndi vuto

Njira zodziwika bwino zochitira chinyengo ndikulumikizana ndi mnzanu wachinyengo pafoni, LINE, imelo, ndi zina zambiri, kapena kukumana ndi anthu osiyanasiyana omwe si amuna kapena akazi anzawo pa SNS. Mukakumana ndi mkazi wokongola, mumafuna kulankhula naye, kupita pachibwenzi, ndipo pamapeto pake mugonane, kotero mumatha kukhala ndi chibwenzi. Zingakhale bwino kunena kuti mwamuna wotero amakonda akazi osati kukhala wachinyengo.

Kupatula apo, zimatenga nthawi yochuluka kuti muzamitse ubale wanu ndi munthu wina mpaka kukhala pachibwenzi. Amuna oterowo ali ndi mphamvu zambiri, choncho ngati apeza lingaliro lokhala ndi chibwenzi, amachichita nthawi yomweyo. Ngati mwamuna amene sangathe kulamulira zilakolako zake amakhala bwenzi lanu, osati kunyenga kokha, komanso chiwawa ndi ndewu zingakhale zofala.

Kumbali ina, ngakhale atakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana ndi mkazi wina, safuna kuchitapo kanthu chifukwa amaona kuti ndizovuta kuti agwirizane naye. Ngakhale munthu woteroyo atafuna kukhala ndi chibwenzi, panalibe njira yomwe akanachitira.

Ndikukhulupirira kuti amayi ena amaganiza mokwiya, ``Sindinganene kuti ndine munthu amene samabera chifukwa chakuti ndili ndi chizolowezi chobera ngakhale kwakanthawi,'' koma ngati chinyengo sichikuchitika, ndi chikhumbo chabe chomwe sichingachitike, ndipo sitinganene kuti ndi chinyengo. Ndikukhulupirira kuti pali amuna ena omwe safuna kubera, koma anthu otere sakhala pachibwenzi.

munthu anaika maganizo ake pa zolinga zake

Munthu amene amagwira ntchito molimbika kapena munthu amene amagwira ntchito molimbika pa zokonda zake, mwa kuyankhula kwina, mtundu womwe uli ndi zolinga zakezake ndipo wokhazikika m'mitimayo, adzakhala wotanganidwa ndikuika maganizo ake pa maloto ake, kotero kuti sadzakhala nawo. maganizo achinyengo.
Amuna otere nthawi zambiri amakhala oona mtima, odekha komanso osamala, ndipo amakonda kwambiri ntchito kapena kafukufuku kuposa maubwenzi.

Ngakhale kuti ndi mtundu wa munthu amene ali wodalirika komanso wosabera, alinso ndi vuto limene saika patsogolo chikondi, ndipo nthawi zina amakhala wovuta kwambiri ndipo sasonyeza chikondi. Mwina simungafanane ndi akazi omwe amalakalaka zotukuka kapena zibwenzi.

Makhalidwe a mkazi wosanyenga

Mkazi wokhutitsidwa ndi zomwe zilipo

Chifukwa simukukhutira ndi moyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku, ubale wachikondi, kapena ubale wogonana, mukufuna kulandira chilimbikitso chatsopano pochita chibwenzi ndi wokondedwa wina. Azimayi ena amatha kugwiritsa ntchito chibwenzi kuti athetse nkhawa pa moyo wawo wamakono. Komabe, ngati mkazi ali wokhutitsidwa ndi moyo wake wamakono ndipo ali wosangalala ndipo samasungulumwa nkomwe, ngakhale atayesedwa kuchita chinyengo, angaganize kuti ali ndi kanthu kena kotaya ngati achita zachinyengo, ndipo adzasungabe chimwemwe chake chamakono. .Pofuna kudziteteza, waganiza zothawa chibwenzicho.

mkazi wosacheza naye

Mosiyana ndi akazi amene amadalira amuna ndipo amakhala ndi malingaliro odalira, akazi a nkhandwe okha amakhala okha mosavuta. Sasamala za maubwenzi ndi anthu ena, kotero kuti ngakhale ubale wake wachikondi ndi bwenzi lake utazizira, iye si mtundu wosungulumwa mwamsanga ndikupita kwa amuna ena okongola. Kuonjezera apo, akazi omwe ali okhawo sangakhale ofunikira kwambiri pa kulankhulana, sangachepetse nkhawa chifukwa cha chinyengo, ndipo angakhale ndi chidwi ndi kuthekera kwachinyengo ngakhale ngati pali mwayi.

Komabe, popeza kuti nthawi zambiri samacheza ndi anthu ena, n’kovuta kupanga naye ubwenzi wachikondi. Sindine wochezeka, choncho maubwenzi anga ndi ochepa komanso ozama. Komanso, iye si mtundu wokonda chibwenzi ndi munthu yemwe samukonda, choncho zimakhala zovuta kuti akhale paubwenzi ndi chibwenzi chake kuchokera paubwenzi waumunthu. Mwamuna amene mukufuna kuti akhale chibwenzi cha bwenzi lanu ayenera kukhala ndi zopindulitsa zina osati kucheza.

Mkazi amene ali wolimba mtima kukana mayesero

M’maubwenzi achinyengo okhudza akazi, akazi akhoza kunyengedwa ndi mwamuna wokongola kapena kukakamizidwa ndi mwamuna wachiwawa, zomwe zimachititsa kuti akopeke kuchita chinyengo. Panthawiyo, ngati mkazi alimba mtima kukana ubwenzi wachinyengo ndi kukana kumamatira ku chifuniro chake ngakhale pamene wina wamuitana, adzakhala ndi mphamvu zothetsera vutolo payekha. Ngakhale atakhala pampanipani, akazi sachita chinyengo ngati sadalira amuna ndipo amatha kudziweruza okha ndi kudziimira payekha.

Ngakhale mtundu wosabera uli ndi zolakwika zake.

Masiku ano, okonda ambiri akuvutika ndi vuto la kubera, kotero amalakalaka mtundu wamalingaliro amodzi omwe samabera, ndikupangitsa kuti akhale mtundu wawo wabwino wa chibwenzi kapena chibwenzi. Komabe, kungakhale kupusa kusankha chibwenzi kapena chibwenzi chifukwa chongofuna kubera. Popeza iye ndi munthu wofunika kwambiri, muyenera kuyang'ananso maonekedwe ake, umunthu wake, ndi kugwirizana ndi inu, kuwonjezera pa chizolowezi chake chachinyengo.