Me pehea te whakatau i to hoa aroha i muri i tana tinihanga ki a koe

Ahakoa kua maha nga tau i noho tahi ahau me taku hoa, ka mutu taku tinihanga ki a ia. Na te hara o te whai take he uaua te oranga o ia ra. I te wa ka puta te mahi tinihanga, ka korerohia te mamae o te hunga i tinihangatia, engari ko te mea pono, he maha nga tangata tinihanga e pouri ana i a raatau ake mahi tinihanga. Mena kei te tinihanga tetahi ki a koe, ka noho puku koe me te kore korero? Kei te whaki pono ranei koe ki to hoa aroha?

Mena kei te noho wahangu tonu koe, mena ka kitea e to hoa aroha kei te tinihanga koe, ka taupatupatu tonu o korua tokorua, ka mutu i te wa poto. Heoi, ki te whaki tika koe i to mahi ki to hoa aroha, kare pea e taea e to hoa aroha te pupuri i tana riri mo to tinihanga, ka mutu ka wehe tonu ia koe na te mea e whakapono ana ia kare rawa ia e muru i to mahi tinihanga. Mena ka korero koe, ka ngaro nga mea katoa, engari ahakoa kaore koe e korero, ka mohio pea to hoa aroha kei te tinihanga koe. I tua atu, i mua i te mohiotanga o to hoa aroha ki a koe mo to take, ka tino kaha koe i nga ra katoa, a, kaore koe e whai waahi engari ki te haere tonu i to oranga me te kore e pai. Kei te pirangi nga tangata katoa kia puta wawe i te pouri.

No reira, mai i tenei wa, ina kua tinihangatia koe, ka whakaatu matou me pehea te whakaoti i te raruraru tinihanga, te whakapai ake i to whanaungatanga o mua, me te whakahoki ano i te whakawhirinaki o to hoa aroha.

Me aha koe ina tinihanga koe

Tirohia te take mo te tinihanga

I etahi wa kua tinihanga koe ki tetahi, engari kaore koe e mohio he aha koe i tinihanga ai. Mena kei te kaha to hiahia ki te whai i tetahi take, a ka taea e koe te tino rongo i to hiahia ki te whai hononga, kaore koe e pouri ki te whakaaro, ``Naku koe i tinihanga!'' Na reira, i muri i te tinihanga, me mahara koe ki te ahuatanga i mua i muri i te mahi tinihanga, me te whakamarama i te take i tinihanga ai koe.

I te wa e pa ana ki te tinihanga, he maha nga wa ka puta mai na te mea kei te hikaka te hoa, kei te haurangi, kei te ahua rereke ranei. No reira, i muri i te wehe atu i tetahi take, tera pea ka hara te tangata nana i tinihanga, ka pouri. He maha nga tangata e pouri ana i muri i te whakaaro, ``He take tera i taea te karo me i aukati ratou i a ratou ano, engari i mahia e ratou he hara e kore e murua na te mea kaore e taea e ratou te aukati i nga whakamatautau mo te wa poto.

Ehara i te pai mo to hinengaro te whakahoki ano i te maharatanga o to take, engari he pai ki te whaki i nga ahuatanga o to hononga ki to hoa aroha. Ka korerotia e koe ki to hoa aroha nga korero mo to mahi me te tono mo te murunga hara, ka whakanuia e koe te ``whakapourihia e nga kare-a-roto mo te wa poto,'' `` whanonga ohorere,'' me te `` he hononga kotahi,'' me te mahi tinihanga hei mahi ``te pohehe'' kaua ko te ``hiahia.'' me waiho. Ko te huarahi pai kia mohio ai to hoa ki to hara me to ripeneta ko te whakamaarama taipitopito he aha koe i tinihanga ai ki a ia.

Whakamātauria ki te whakaoti i te raruraru tinihanga o nāianei

Mena kua tinihanga koe, me ngana koe ki te karo i te tinihanga tuarua ka taea. Ko te mea e tika ana kia tino tupato koe ko muri i te tinihanga, ka kaha te hara o etahi tangata, no reira ka whakatika ratou i ta ratou mahi tinihanga me te whakapono ehara na ratou te he. Ki te kore koe e whaki i ou ake he, ka taea e koe te whakakore i etahi o nga hara o te mahi tinihanga, engari ka riro pea koe he tangata tinihanga, he mahi tinihanga tonu, ka waiho hei tangata kino e tukino ana i to hoa aroha. Ki te kore koe e pai ki te noho pera, he pai ake te whakatau i te raru tinihanga inaianei.

Mena he wa kotahi te mahi, me kaha koe ki te whakatenatena ia ia ki te wehe me te tapahi i nga hononga katoa ki a koe i te mea kaore koe i roto i te whanaungatanga aroha i te timatanga. Heoi ano, tera pea ka pirangi tera tangata ki te whai take ki a koe me te whakatakoto mahanga mo te tinihanga ki a koe, na reira kia tupato ka pa ana tera, a ki te wehe koe me te kore whakaaetanga, ka tupono pea te ka whakaputahia e tetahi atu nga whakaahua o to tinihanga ki runga. No reira, he pai ake te whakamutu i te hononga tinihanga ma te utu reti.

Me pehea te whakatau i to hoa aroha i muri i te tinihanga ki a koe

Te wa ki te whaki ki to hoa aroha

Ahakoa he aha te korero, me whakina e koe to mahi tinihanga ki to hoa aroha, me mihi me te tono mo te murunga. Ki te kore koe e mahi i tenei, kare e taea e koe te whakakore i te hara e mau ana koe i te mahi tinihanga, kare hoki e taea e koe te karo i te tupono o to hoa aroha ki te rapu korero mo to take me te kore koe e mohio me te riri. . I mua i te raruraru o te tinihanga e arai ana ki te hua kino rawa atu, he mea tika ki te whakaiti i te kino i puta mai i te tinihanga i te mea ka taea.
Engari, he mea nui ano te wa whaki ki to hoa aroha. Mena kua pakaru kee to whanaungatanga, kua ngaro pea to hoa aroha ki a koe, kei te awangawanga koe mo to puremu. I taua wa, ki te korero tika koe ki to hoa aroha mo nga ahuatanga o to mahi, he nui te tupono ka tangohia e to hoa aroha tenei hei waahi ki te wehe i a koe. Ki te kore e pai te haere o nga mea i waenganui i a korua, ka kiia ko te atamira ka kaha te tinihanga, no reira he pai ake te whakapai ake i to whanaungatanga, kaua ki te whaki i to mahi tinihanga.

Nga tohu hei maumahara ina whaki ki to hoa aroha

(1) “Eita roa ’tu vau e haavare faahou.”

I muri a‘e i to ’na faataaraa e no te aha o ’na i haavare ai, ua tǎpǔ oia e e ore roa oia e na reira faahou, e faahapa oia i ta ’na mau hape, e faaite i te tatarahapa papu, e i te pae hopea, ua ani oia i te faaoreraa hara. I muri i te whakapumautanga o to whaki pono me to whakaaro ki te mahi tinihanga, ka whakaaro ano to hoa pai ki to whanaungatanga aroha me te whakatau mehemea ka haere tonu to whanaungatanga.

(2) “Kei te pirangi ahau ki te noho ki a koe mo te wa roa”

He tino uaua ki te whakahoki ano i te whakawhirinaki kua ngaro na te tinihanga, na i mua i te whaki i to aroha, me ngana koe ki te whakamarie i te ngakau o to hoa aroha ma te kii penei "Ko koe anake" me "Ko koe taku tino pai." .'' Na, me pehea te whakapai ake i to whanaungatanga, te whakakore i to hiahia ki te tinihanga, me te whakaatu i to hiahia mo te whanaungatanga mo te wa roa? Ma tenei ka nui ake to tupono kia murua e to hoa aroha.

Te whakapai ake i to whanaungatanga ma te whakatikatika i to hoa aroha a muri ake nei

Ko te hanga i tetahi hononga me whakatikatika mo te take. Mai i tenei wa, whakaatu i to pono o te aroha ma te whakaatu i to aroha, te tuku taonga, te haere tahi. Mena ka whakaaro koe kaore koe e whakawhirinakihia i muri i to mahi tuatahi, ka taea e koe te aukati i to hoa aroha ki te tinihanga i a koe ano ma te whakarite i tetahi ture, penei "kaua e inu waipiro ano." Heoi, ko te huarahi pai ki te aukati i te tinihanga ko te pupuri i te hononga hohonu i waenganui i a korua.

Ahakoa ka kaingākau koe ki te mahi tinihanga, he huarahi hei rongoa.

I muri i te mahi tinihanga i tetahi tangata, ehara i te mea rereke mo ratou ki te whakawhanake i te ahua o te mahi tinihanga me te uaua ki te whakaae ki te kore e taea. I muri i te tuku ki te whakamatautau o te tinihanga, kaore pea koe e hoki ki to oranga tawhito. Heoi, ahakoa kua kaingākau koe ki te mahi tinihanga, me kaha ki te whakatika mena ka whakapau kaha korua. Kia ako tatou me pehea te whakahaere i o tatou kare-a-roto hei pupuri i o tatou hiahia mo te wa poto.