ʻO ka noʻonoʻo a me nā hiʻohiʻona o ke kanaka lua-kea: Aia nā ala e hana ai me ia inā ʻoe e hālāwai me ia!
ʻAʻole like me ka "hoʻopunipuni," kahi e aloha ai ke kanaka me kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe ʻoiai ua aloha lāua kekahi i kekahi, ʻo ``futako'' kahi hana e makemake like ai ke kanaka i nā kānaka ʻelua o ka wahine like ʻole a aia i loko. aloha me lāua ʻelua i ka manawa like. Ke inaina nei ka poʻe a pau i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻana, akā, aia nō he "kāne ʻaoʻao ʻelua" i kēia ao, no laila hiki i kēlā me kēia wahine ke hālāwai me kahi hoa kāne ʻelua.
ʻO ke kāne keʻa ʻelua he kāne i aloha i nā wahine he nui a ʻaʻole ʻike ʻo ia i kāna punahele, ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke koho ma waena o lākou. He mea kaumaha loa i ka wā mua ua manaʻo wau he kanaka manaʻo hoʻokahi, akā ua hoʻopau ʻo ia i ka launa pū ʻana me nā wahine ʻē aʻe i ka manawa like. Pīhoihoi nō hoʻi ka lohe ʻana i nā mea e like me ``ʻAʻole au i aloha nui iā ʻoe'' a i ʻole `` He like koʻu hoa kāne i nā manaʻo noʻu e like me kaʻu i aloha ai iā ia.''
No ka poʻe i makemake nui i ko lākou aloha kūpono a makemake e koho i kahi ipo maikaʻi, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi hoaaloha aloha iā lākou wale nō? Inā hiki, makemake au e pale aku i nā kāne ʻelua ʻaoʻao e like me ka leʻaleʻa. Eia naʻe, me he mea lā ua nui nā wāhine i lilo i keʻa kaulua me ka ʻike ʻole ʻia no ka mea ʻaʻole lākou i ʻike i ke ʻano o nā kāne kaulua. No laila, i kēia manawa, e wehewehe au i nā ʻano o nā kāne e maʻa mau i ke keʻa ʻelua, a e hoʻopuka i nā mea kūʻē i ia mau kāne. E ʻoluʻolu e hoʻohana i kēia ma ke ʻano he kuhikuhi.
Nā hiʻohiʻona o nā kāne keʻa i ko lākou mau wāwae
wahahee
ʻOiai he kāne ʻo ia i aloha i nā wahine ʻelua i ka manawa like, he mea maʻamau iā ia ka wahaheʻe e hūnā i ka mea huna o nā wahine ʻelua. Inā wahaheʻe ka wahine i kēlā me kēia lā i mea e ʻike ʻole ʻia ai, e pau ka manaʻo hewa i ka wahaheʻe. He kanaka kea kaulua kekahi o lakou, a akamai loa i ka wahahee. Inā haʻi wahaheʻe ke kanaka koʻikoʻi a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, he maʻalahi ka haʻi ʻana ma kāna ʻōlelo, hana, hiʻohiʻona maka, a me nā mea ʻē aʻe, akā inā he kanaka wahaheʻe maikaʻi, he paʻakikī ke haʻi ʻia mai kēlā.
maikaʻi i ka hana ʻana me nā wahine
No ka mea he kāne ʻo ia i loaʻa mau i nā keʻa ʻelua i kēlā me kēia lā, he mea maʻamau wale nō e hiki iā ia ke hoʻohana i kāna ʻike i ka launa pū ʻana i nā wahine he nui i hiki ke hoʻoponopono maikaʻi iā lākou. I mea e pale aku ai i ka hopena maikaʻi ʻole o ka "ʻAʻole au makemake i nā kāne e holomua ana iaʻu, akā ʻo kaʻu hoa he kanaka maikaʻi a maikaʻi i ka pili aloha, ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke haʻalele iā ia inā ʻo ia e holomua. ma luna oʻu.'' Ma mua o ka hoʻomaka ʻana i kahi pilina me kahi kanaka kaulana, e hōʻoia ʻoe He mea naʻauao e makaʻala i kou manaʻo i ke aloha. Eia kekahi, inā he kāne maka ʻelua ka mea ʻē aʻe i akamai i ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana i nā wahine, aia paha ka pilikia e hoʻohuli ʻo ia iā ʻoe e noʻonoʻo, ``ʻO wau nō!?'' Pono ʻoe e nānā ma mua inā ʻo ʻoe ke kaikamahine āu e makemake ai.
ʻAʻole e lawe iaʻu i kahi lā i kahi hanana
ʻO nā hanana e like me ka lā Valentine a me ka Kalikimaka, a me nā lā hānau, nā lā hoʻomanaʻo, a me nā lā hoʻomaha he mau manawa maikaʻi loa ia e nānā ai inā hoʻopunipuni kāu keikikāne a i ʻole he lā pālua. Inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e manaʻo nui i ka manawa e loaʻa ai ke aloha me kāu mea punahele a ʻaʻole ʻoe e hele pū me ʻoe no nā hanana koʻikoʻi, ʻaʻole paha ʻoe kaʻu punahele a hoʻōki wau i ka launa pū ʻana me ʻoe no ka mea ʻo ke kanaka āu ʻOi aku ka nui o ka launa ʻana a i ʻole ka hoʻopunipuni ʻana. Inā ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hālāwai me kāu keikikāne no nā hanana koʻikoʻi, e ʻike inā pili ʻo ia i nā wahine ʻē aʻe. Inā nānā ʻoe i ka kalena a kāu ipo, hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i ka lā, ka manawa, a me kahi o kou lā.
Nui nā mea huna
No ka mea he kāne ʻoe i launa pū me nā kāne he nui, ʻaʻohe ala e noho ai kahi kāne bisexual ma kou ʻaoʻao i kēlā me kēia lā. No ka mālamaʻana i ka pilina me nā wāhine he nui, pono i ke kāneʻelua ke hana i kahi papahana a koho i nā manawa aloha e kūpono i ka maʻalahi o nā wāhine. No kēia kumu, loaʻa paha i kahi kāne bisexual hana nui ka manawa huna ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke haʻi iā ʻoe, a inā e nīnau ʻia ʻoe, hiki iā ia ke hele me nā pane ʻole a i ʻole nā kala ʻole. Aia kekahi poʻe e hoʻokano a ʻaʻole ʻōlelo no ka mea inā ʻoe e kamaʻilio e pili ana iā ʻoe iho, e hopu ʻia ʻoe, no laila e ʻoluʻolu e akahele.
ʻaʻohe lili
Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻōlelo, ``ʻAʻole au huhū.'' ʻAʻole anei ʻoe e manaʻo he mea ʻē inā ʻaʻole ʻōlelo a huhū paha kāu hoaaloha inā ʻoe e hele i waho e ʻai me nā kāne ʻē aʻe a leʻaleʻa i ke kamaʻilio ʻana? Inā he kanaka manipulative ka mea ʻē aʻe i hoʻomaopopo i ke ʻano o ka makemake o ka wahine e lili, hiki iā ia ke hana me he mea lā he lili ʻo ia. Akā he ʻōlelo wale nō kēlā. ʻAʻohe aloha i nā hana i hana ʻia me ka manaʻo.
ʻO ka noʻonoʻo o nā kāne i maʻalahi i ka lua-kea
ʻona e ka manaʻo o ka moekolohe
Aia kekahi mau kāne ʻaʻole manaʻo hewa i kā lākou hana a hana ʻelua i kēlā me kēia lā no ka hoʻoulu ʻana. No ka hiki i nā kāne ʻelua ke ʻike i ka leʻaleʻa o ka moekolohe, e hoʻomau anei lāua i ka pilina me nā wahine he nui ke ʻole e hoʻopaʻi ʻia e ka mea nāna i hana?
Manaʻo wau e kala mai ʻo ia iaʻu
"ʻOiai ʻike kaʻu hoaaloha ua hoʻopunipuni wau iā ia, ʻaʻole maikaʻi no ka mea maopopo iaʻu e kala mai ʻo ia iaʻu." I kēia mau lā, ke piʻi aʻe nei ka nui o nā wāhine i lilo i mau hoa kāne a lilo i "aloha aloha", no laila, nui nā hihia e hoʻokiʻekiʻe ai nā kāne a noʻonoʻo, 'ʻO wau wale nō kāna.'' ʻO ka mea nui e makaʻala ai, ʻo ke kanaka kānalua ʻole e hoʻololi i kona manaʻo ke loaʻa kekahi mea ʻino. No ka mea, he hōʻailona hoʻi ia e hele hewa ana ka pilina ma waena o lāua. I mea e ho'ōki ai i kāu keikikāne e like me kēia, pono ʻoe e hoʻomaikaʻi i kou pilina.
E kiʻi i kahi hoaaloha lua no ka mea makaʻu ʻoe i ka haʻalele
Inā hoʻokahi wale nō āu ipo, inā ʻoe e hemo me ia, ua pau. Lawe kekahi mau kāne iā lākou iho e loaʻa i ʻelua mau hoaaloha ʻelua a ʻoi aku paha ma muli o ia mau hopohopo. Inā maikaʻi ʻole ka pilina me ke kanaka hoʻokahi, e ʻimi ʻo ia i kahi hoaaloha ʻē aʻe a ʻimi i ka hōʻoluʻolu. Eia nō naʻe, makemake kēlā me kēia wahine e lilo i "hoakāne punahele" a ʻaʻole ʻo ia ʻo "ʻelua hoaaloha". ʻOiai inā ʻōlelo ke kanaka he nāwaliwali ʻo ia i ka wā e haʻihaʻi ai, e holo ʻo ia.
Mai ho'āʻo e hoʻopau i kou hopohopo ma ka hana ʻana i nā mea.
ʻAʻole au makemake e hoʻohui i ka mea aloha hoʻokahi wale nō
Ke noʻonoʻo ʻoe i kahi kāne kaulana, aia kahi kiʻi ikaika o ka hoʻopuni ʻia e nā wahine. ʻAʻole ia he mea maʻamau ka manaʻo o nā kāne he makemake lākou e leʻaleʻa me nā wahine he nui ma mua o ka wahine hoʻokahi e aloha iā lākou me ka manaʻo hoʻokahi. No ia mau kāne, ʻo ka hoʻopuni ʻia ʻana e nā wahine he nui ke ʻano e pono ai ke kaulana a nani hoʻi, a he mea ia e haʻaheo ai lākou. No ka mālamaʻana i ke kiʻi o ke kanaka kaulana,ʻaʻole ponoʻoe e aloha i hoʻokahi wahine wale nō. ʻO ka hopena, ʻo ke kāne i lilo i ka pilina me nā wahine he nui a ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻokuʻu ʻia e lilo i kāne keʻa pālua.
manao ole
ʻOiai inā ʻoe e ʻimi i kahi mea aloha e pili ana i kāu kiʻi maikaʻi loa, aia kahi manawa liʻiliʻi e hālāwai ai ʻoe me kahi ʻuhane i kūpono loa me ʻoe. I mea e hana ai i hoaaloha mai nā wahine āu e hālāwai ai, pono ʻoe e koho i kāu punahele mai waena o nā wahine i loaʻa i kēlā me kēia ʻaoʻao ko lākou ʻaoʻao maikaʻi.
Eia naʻe, ʻaʻole maopopo i kekahi mau kāne i ka mea e koho ai no ka mea, manaʻo lākou, "ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke koho ma waena o nā wahine maikaʻi ʻelua," "Inā koho wau i kekahi, pono wau e haʻalele i kekahi wahine," a ` 'E hoʻopau wau i ka hōʻeha i ka wahine hiki ʻole iaʻu ke koho.'' . I ka hopena, ua haʻalele kēlā kanaka manaʻo ʻole i kāna koho i ʻole e mihi, a lilo i kāne ʻelua ʻaoʻao i ka manawa like i ke aloha me nā wahine. ʻOiai inā ʻike ke kāne ʻaʻole maikaʻi ka loaʻa ʻana o nā wahine ʻelua, ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia e haʻalele i kekahi o nā wahine āna i aloha ai, no laila ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke koho a hoʻomau i ka launa pū me ia.
Pehea e hana ai me kahi hoa kāne pālua
Hoʻopau i ka pilina a hoʻohewa iā lākou
E hāʻawi iā ia i ka palena manawa a e aʻo iā ia inā ʻaʻole ʻo ia e hoʻōki i ka hana ʻana e like me kēia, e haʻalele ʻoe iā ia. ʻO kou hoa kāne, ka mea i manaʻoʻiʻo ʻaʻole ʻoe e haʻalele i kona ʻaoʻao, hiki ke hoʻopuʻiwa a noʻonoʻo i kāna mau hana. I mea e pale ai i ka hoʻi hou ʻana i ka wā e hiki mai ana, e hoʻomaikaʻi i kou pilina a hoʻomaopopo i kāu hoaaloha i nā pono o ka lilo ʻana i mea aloha aloha iā ʻoe me ka puʻuwai holoʻokoʻa, ʻaʻole like me ka pilina ʻelua.
e ʻono i ka pandemonium
ʻO ka ʻae ʻana i kāu keikikāne, ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke koho i kekahi, e koho ʻo ia he hopena ʻelua. E kāhea aku i kāu hoa, a hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau i kāu hoaaloha, `` ʻO wai kāu hoaaloha punahele?'' a e hoʻoholo lākou. ʻAʻole hiki i ka poʻe aloha ke kamaʻilio maikaʻi, a hiki ke hopena i kahi kūlana haunaele. No ka mea he manawa kūpono kēia, ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻokuʻu i kāu hoaaloha i ka makaʻu o nā wahine.
Hoʻokaʻawale hoʻokahi a no nā mea a pau
ʻOiai inā e hoʻōki ke kāne ʻelua ʻaoʻao i kēia manawa, hiki iā ia ke hoʻomaka e ʻimi i kahi wahine ʻē aʻe i kekahi lā. Inā manaʻo ʻoe ʻaʻole hiki ke hoʻomau i kāu pilina aloha, ʻo ka haʻihaʻi ʻana he koho. No ka mea ʻaʻole hiki i kāu hoa ke hoʻopau i kona manaʻo kānalua, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi e haʻalele koke iā ia. A e kiʻi i hoa kāne hou. Pehea e ʻimi ai i kahi hoaaloha koʻikoʻi ʻaʻole e hoʻopunipuni a hoʻopunipuni i kēia manawa?
Mai ka hoʻopunipuni a hiki i ka lua-kea! ?
Inā manaʻoʻiʻo ʻoe i kēia, "ʻOiai ʻo ʻoe ka hoaaloha i makemake ʻia, ʻo ka mea i hoʻopunipuni ʻia e loaʻa ka pōmaikaʻi ma ke kūkākūkā ʻana me ka hoa hoʻopunipuni a i ʻole ka hoaaloha," pono ʻoe e hōʻoia mua inā ʻo ʻoe ʻo "ka hoaaloha i makemake ʻia." .'' I kekahi manawa makemake like koʻu hoa kāne i nā wahine ʻelua, no laila koho wau iā ia, a i kekahi manawa ʻaʻole makemake ʻo ia i kekahi o lāua. ʻO nā pilina ma waena o nā kāne a me nā wahine, e like me ka duplicity a me ka hoʻopunipuni, ʻoi aku ka paʻakikī ma mua o kou manaʻo.
