ʻO nā hōʻailona o ka narcissism he mea paʻakikī keʻike i ka wā mua o ka pilina, akā i ka wā lōʻihi, eʻike nuiʻia kēia mau hōʻailona. E kōkua kēia ʻatikala iā ʻoe e ʻike inā e hōʻike ana kāu hoa i kekahi o nā hōʻailona o ka narcissism.
He aha ka narcissism?
ʻO ka Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-V) e wehewehe ana i ka narcissism ma ke ʻano he "maʻamau o ka hoʻopunipuni nui o ka hanohano, ka pono mau no ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana, a me ka nele o ke aloha." Pono e hoʻokō ʻia ma ka liʻiliʻi ʻelima o kēia mau pae.
- manaʻo nui o ka manaʻo nui
- Hoʻopili ʻia me nā moemoeā o ka kūleʻa pau ʻole, ka mana, ka nani, ka nani, a me ke aloha kūpono.
- Ke noʻonoʻo nei he mea kūikawā a kū hoʻokahi ʻoe, a hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo a hui pū me nā poʻe kūikawā ʻē aʻe a i ʻole nā kānaka kūlana kiʻekiʻe.
- pono no ka mahalo nui
- manaʻo pono
- hana hoohana ia hai
- nele i ke aloha
- No ka huāhuā ʻana i nā mea ʻē aʻe a i ʻole ka manaʻoʻiʻo ua lili kekahi iā ia iho.
- Ka hōʻike ʻana i ke ʻano haʻaheo a i ʻole ka haʻaheo.
ʻO nā hōʻailona ʻoe i loko o kahi male narcissistic a pilina paha
E nānā kākou i kekahi o nā ʻano i hōʻike ʻia e kekahi me ka maʻi narcissistic personality (NPD). ʻO ka nui o nā ʻano i helu ʻia ma lalo nei he hōʻailona paha ia i ka maʻi narcissistic personality, akā hiki i kahi loea olakino noʻonoʻo ke hana i kahi hōʻoia pololei.
mai manao pili
E kamaʻilio kāu hoa iā ʻoe i ko lākou ʻoluʻolu. Akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole lākou e lohe e pili ana i kāu mau hoʻolālā i ka wā e hiki mai ana a pehea mākou e hana pū ai e kūkulu i ke ola āu e makemake ai.
Ke haʻaheo mau nei lākou iā lākou iho a me kā lākou mau hoʻokō, ʻaʻole hōʻike i ka hoihoi i nā mea e hana nei i kou ola a nīnau i nā nīnau. ʻO ko lākou hauʻoli mai nā mea o waho, e like me ke kaulana a me ke kālā ma ka hana. Manaʻo wau inā hiki iā lākou ke ʻike i nā manaʻo aloha a me nā pilina pili.
manaʻo hoʻopunipuni
Hiki paha i kāu hoa hana ke hoʻoweliweli maʻalahi i ka pilina. ʻOiai ʻaʻole pololei kāu mau ʻōlelo, manaʻo paha ʻoe inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hana i kekahi mea a pane ʻole i ka noi a kekahi, e hiki mai ana kekahi mea ʻino. I kekahi manawa ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi o ka hana ʻana i ka mea a kekahi e makemake ai, ʻoiai inā ʻaʻole ʻoe e ʻae me ia. He ala kēia o ka hoʻomalu a me ka hoʻopunipuni i kāu hoa e loaʻa ai kāu mea e makemake ai.
Poina pinepine ka poʻe i loko o kēia mau pilina i ke ʻano o ko lākou ola ma mua o ka hoʻopunipuni ʻia ʻana.
'A'ole Pono 'oe
Loaʻa iā ʻoe nā manaʻo o ka lawa ʻole, kūpono ʻole i nā mea āu i hoʻokō ai i kou ola. Hiki i kāu hoa hana ke hoʻohaʻahaʻa iā ʻoe a i ʻole ka manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole e pili ana i kāu hana. ʻAʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i nā mea āu i leʻaleʻa ai no ka mea ʻaʻohe ou manawa?
Malia paha ua luhi mau ʻoe a paʻakikī ke haʻalele i kahi moe i ke kakahiaka. Ua hoʻomaka wau e hūnā i nā mea mai koʻu ʻohana a me koʻu mau hoaaloha a hilahila i koʻu ola. He wahaheʻe e hūnā i kāu hoa hana a ʻaʻole paha e hana nei.
ua hoʻomālamalama mau ʻoe
Inā hōʻole kekahi i ka mea āu i ʻike ai he ʻoiaʻiʻo, ke hoʻomālamalama nei lākou iā ʻoe. He mea maʻamau kēia i nā pilina hoʻomāinoino a hoʻomalu paha, a he hana maʻamau o nā narcissists.
No ka laʻana, hiki i kāu wahine ke hana i nā manaʻo e pili ana i nā hanana āu i ʻike ai, e like me, `` ʻAʻole ʻoe i hoʻomanaʻo pololei.'' E hoʻomālamalama lākou iā ʻoe i ka manaʻoʻiʻo ʻaʻole i hiki mai kekahi mau mea, a i ʻole ua hana lākou i kekahi mea ma muli o kahi mea āu i hana ai a i ʻōlelo ai paha ma ka mua.
Hiki i kāu hoa ke wahaheʻe e pili ana i kāu mau hana a hoʻāʻo e wili i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo e kūpono i kā lākou mana ma mua o ka mea i hana maoli ʻia. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke kānalua iā ʻoe iho a manaʻo ʻoe e hele pupule ana ʻoe.
Inā hiki kēia i mua o kou ʻohana a i ʻole nā hoaaloha, hoʻomaka paha lākou e noʻonoʻo ʻo ʻoe ka pilikia, ʻaʻole kāu hoa. ʻO nā hoa pili i ʻike ʻia ma ka ʻaoʻao hiki ke paʻakikī ke hoʻomaopopo i ka mea e hana nei ma hope o nā pani pani.
pale i ke kamaʻilio ʻana
ʻOiai ʻoe e hoʻāʻo e noho mālie a ʻaʻole e huhū i ka ʻano o ka mea ʻē aʻe, ʻike paha ʻoe i kēlā me kēia kamaʻilio ʻana me kēlā me kēia kanaka e lilo i hoʻopaʻapaʻa. Ke ho'āʻo mau nei ka poʻe Narcissists e paʻi i kāu mau pihi a hoʻohuli iā ʻoe. Loaʻa iā lākou ka ʻoluʻolu mai ka mālama ʻana i nā manaʻo o kekahi.
ʻOi aku ka maʻalahi o ka pale ʻana i ke kamaʻilio ʻana ma mua o ke komo mau ʻana i ke kaua psychological.
Manaʻo wau i ke kuleana no nā mea a pau
Manaʻo mau ka poʻe Narcissist ʻo nā mea a pau no kekahi hewa, ʻoiai inā hana lākou i kekahi mea hewa. ʻAʻole e kala ʻia mai kahi narcissist. ʻAʻole ʻike ka poʻe Narcissist i nā mea like ʻole, no laila he mea kūpono ʻole ke kala ʻana mai ka nīnau.
ʻAʻole paha e lawe kāu hoa hana ʻino i ke kuleana no kāna mau hana a e hoʻopiʻi mau iā ʻoe. Inā hewa kekahi mea, nau nō ia i hewa, ʻoiai inā he hewa kekahi.
Manaʻo ʻoe ʻo nā mea maikaʻi ʻole a pau i loko o ko lākou ola he hewa ia a ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hana i kekahi mea.
ke hele nei ʻoe ma nā ʻili hua
Manaʻo paha ʻoe e hele ana ʻoe ma luna o nā ʻili hua manu no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike i ka wā e pahū ai kāu hoa a i ʻole e ʻeha?
ʻO kahi laʻana maʻamau e like me kēia. Me he mea lā ua holo maikaʻi nā mea a pau, akā i ka wā e loaʻa ai kekahi mea liʻiliʻi, huhū ʻo ia. ʻO kahi mea liʻiliʻi e like me ka loaʻa ʻana o ka hōʻaiʻē a ka mea i manaʻo ʻole ʻia kā lākou hoa pili e hiki ke hoʻoulu i ka narcissist. Kapa ʻia kēia i ka huhū narcissistic.
Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke nalowale, e hana ana i nā hoʻoholo āpau e ʻoluʻolu i kāu hoa narcissistic.
ʻike ʻoe ma o ka nani
Ma ka ʻaoʻao, he uʻi, hilinaʻi, a akamai hoʻi kāu hoa. Eia nō naʻe, ʻike ʻia kēlā ʻano no ka mea akamai lākou i ka hūnā i ko lākou ʻano maoli i ka lehulehu. 'Ōleloʻo ia i nā mea maikaʻi a pau a aloha nā mea a pau iā ia, akā i ka wā e noho wale ai lāua, ua loli nā mea a pau. ʻO ka hopena, ʻike koke lākou iā lākou iho e pili ana me kahi kanaka ʻokoʻa loa i ko lākou ʻano.
manaʻo hoʻohewa mau ʻia
Hoʻohewa loa kou hoa pili i kou helehelena. Hiki iā lākou ke manaʻo e pili ana i kou kaumaha, ʻaʻahu, a i ʻole nā koho lauoho. E ʻakaʻaka iā ʻoe a i ʻole e hoʻohaʻahaʻa iā ʻoe. Hiki paha kēia ma hope ou a i kou alo paha.
e hoowahawaha ia hai. ʻO ka mea nui, hoʻomāʻewaʻewa lākou i ka poʻe a lākou i manaʻo ai he haʻahaʻa lākou (e like me ka poʻe hoihoi ʻole a waiwai paha). Hoʻohewa maʻamau i kēlā me kēia kanaka.
ʻaʻole mālama ʻia kāu mau pono
Ke noʻonoʻo wale nei kāu hoa pili i ko lākou pono ponoʻī a me ka hopena o nā mea iā lākou, ʻaʻole ʻoe a i ʻole kekahi mea ʻē aʻe (me kāu mau keiki inā he ʻohana kou). E hana wale lākou i ka mea maikaʻi no lākou, ʻaʻole ʻoe a i kāu pilina.
No ka laʻana, ʻo kāu hoa pili paha ia.
- Makemake au e moe i ka wā e makemake ai koʻu hoa, akā ʻaʻole i koʻu makemake.
- manaʻo e hoʻomaʻemaʻe ma hope
- e hōʻaiʻē iā ʻoe iho
- Huhū au i ka wā e manaʻo nui ai kekahi i koʻu ʻohana ma mua o koʻu ʻohana.
- ʻO ka hāʻawi ʻana i ka mālama maikaʻi ʻana i kekahi mau keiki ma mua o nā mea ʻē aʻe i mea e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kekahi keiki.
Ua ao aku kou ʻohana iā ʻoe (a ʻaʻole ʻike paha)
Ua haʻi mai koʻu ʻohana iaʻu ʻaʻole lākou makemake i ke ʻano o ka hana ʻana o kaʻu hoa kāne iaʻu. A i ʻole e hoʻopunipuni ana kāu hoa pili iā ʻoe no laila ʻaʻole ʻike kou ʻohana he hewa kekahi. I kēlā me kēia hihia, i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana i ka pilina ʻohana, lilo nā hoa i wahi o ka paio.
ke hoopunipuni nei oe
ʻO ka poʻe Narcissists he mau haku o ka hoʻopunipuni a hoʻopunipuni paha iā ʻoe. He nani loa lākou a ʻike i ka lanakila ʻana i ka naʻau o nā kānaka. Hiki paha iā ʻoe ke kānalua inā he ʻoiaʻiʻo mau ke kanaka ʻē aʻe ma o ka hoʻoheheʻe ʻana. Ua hoʻopunipuni ʻo ia iā ʻoe i nā manawa he nui, no laila ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke kāohi iā ia mai ka hana hou ʻana.
manao aloha ole
I ko mākou hui mua ʻana, manaʻo wau ʻo ia ka mea kupanaha loa ma ka honua. Akā, i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa a puka mai nā pilikia, ua hoʻomaka kāu hoa e ʻoki iā ʻoe a nānā ʻole iā ʻoe. He hae ʻulaʻula kēia a lākou e hoʻopunipuni nei iā lākou iho ma kahi mua.
I ka hoʻomaka ʻana, ua loaʻa paha iā ʻoe nā pōkā aloha e hoʻopaʻa ai iā ʻoe, akā ke male ʻoe, ua pau kēlā mau pōkā aloha.
loaʻa iā ʻoe ka mālama leo
Ke hoʻohana nei kāu hoa i ka mālama leo ma ke ʻano he pāʻani mana e hoʻomalu iā ʻoe. E ʻauʻa lākou i ke aloha a nānā ʻole i kou hele ʻana a hiki i ko lākou manaʻo e hoʻomaikaʻi hou. ʻO ka maʻamau wale nō ke hoʻopōmaikaʻi iā ʻoe ma kekahi ʻano (e like me ka loaʻa ʻana o kahi mea āu e makemake ai).
Manaʻo paha ʻoe he mea maʻamau a "manaʻo ʻia" kēia ʻano hana no ka poʻe male. Akā ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole ʻo ka noho mālie kahi ʻāpana o ka pilina olakino, aloha, a mahalo.
pilikia kālā
Inā hoʻokahi mea maikaʻi ka poʻe narcissists, ʻo ia ka hoʻohana kālā ʻana i kā lākou kāne. ʻAʻole hiki i kāu hoa hana ke hoʻomau i ka hana a ke uku nei ʻoe i nā lilo āpau, a i ʻole ʻo ka hana a kāu hoa e loaʻa mai ai ka nui o ka loaʻa kālā akā ʻaʻole lākou e hōʻike iā ʻoe, ʻaʻole.
Inā pēlā, hoʻohana paha kāu hoa i kēlā me kēia peni hope iā ia iho a ʻaʻohe manaʻo e kaʻana like me ʻoe i kēia manawa a i ka wā e hiki mai ana.
ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke hilinaʻi i kaʻu hoa
Ke hana lākou i ka ʻōlelo hoʻohiki, ʻaʻole ʻoe i ʻike inā e mālama lākou. Kaulana ʻo Narcissists no ka hana ʻana i nā ʻōlelo hoʻohiki a haʻihaʻi iā lākou i ka wā kūpono iā lākou. ʻAʻohe aʻu hoa e hilinaʻi ai, a pono iaʻu e hana i nā mea a pau.
ʻAʻole lākou e loli inā ʻoe i noi iā lākou.
ʻO ke kumu ʻaʻole e loli ai ka mea hoʻokalakupua no ka mea ʻo ia ka ʻae ʻana i kekahi hewa i loko o lākou iho, a ʻaʻole loa e ʻae ka mea haʻihaʻi. Ma ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe, haʻaheo kekahi poʻe he poʻe narcissists akā ʻōlelo lākou ʻo nā mea ʻē aʻe ka pilikia.
Inā ʻaʻole hoʻāʻo kāu hoa e hoʻololi i kā lākou ʻano, e pili ana paha ʻoe i kahi narcissist.
He aha kāu e hana ai inā pili ʻoe me kahi narcissist
ʻO ka noho ʻana me ka narcissist hiki ke loaʻa nā hopena koʻikoʻi a lōʻihi i kou olakino noʻonoʻo. Inā hoʻomāinoino ka manaʻo o kāu hoa a ʻaʻole e hoʻololi i kāna ʻano, ʻo ia ka manawa e noʻonoʻo hou ai i ka pilina. A inā hoʻoholo ʻoe e hoʻomaha, e hoʻopaʻa pono ʻoe i kahi ʻōnaehana kākoʻo ma mua. Eia kekahi laʻana, he hoaaloha paha kēia, he lālā o ka ʻohana, a he mea lapaʻau paha.
Ināʻoe e hoʻomau i ka pilina me ka narcissist.
- Loaʻa i ka lāʻau lapaʻau a i ʻole ke kākoʻo ma waho
- Ka hana ʻana a me ka mālama ʻana i nā palena
- E mālama i nā moʻolelo o nā kamaʻilio a me nā hanana i mea e pale ai i ke kukui uila.
- E noho mālie a kūpaʻa
- Ma ka hana, ke pale aku nei au i ka ʻōlelo hoʻomāinoino e makemake ai e hoʻokuʻu aku.
- E aʻo e like me kāu e hiki ai e pili ana i nā narcissists i hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i kā lākou hana a me ka hoʻopunipuni.
i ka hopena
Hiki i nā mea a pau ke manaʻo ponoʻī iā ia iho, akā ʻaʻole hiki i nā narcissists ke hana i kekahi ʻano ʻē aʻe. E hoʻomanaʻo: He mana ka ʻike. E aʻo i nā mea a pau e pili ana i ka narcissism i hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i ka mea e hana nei. Ke noʻonoʻo nei i ka pili ʻana i kahi narcissist hiki ke hōʻino i kou manaʻo ponoʻī, pono ka mālama pono ʻana. E noʻonoʻo i ka lāʻau lapaʻau e pale i kou olakino noʻonoʻo.
