Even though I have been with my boyfriend for many years, I ended up cheating on him. And the guilt of having an affair makes daily life difficult. When cheating becomes a hot topic, the pain experienced by those who were cheated on is often talked about, but in reality, there are many cheaters who regret their own cheating actions. If someone cheats on you, do you just shut up and say nothing? Or do you honestly confess to your lover?
If you continue to remain silent, if your lover discovers that you are cheating, the two of you will have constant conflicts and your romantic relationship will end in an instant. However, if you directly confess your affair to your girlfriend's boyfriend, he may not be able to control his anger at your betrayal and may immediately break up with him because he thinks he will never forgive his girlfriend for cheating on you. If you tell, you'll lose everything, but even if you don't tell, your lover might find out that you're cheating. Also, before your lover finds out about your affair, you will feel a strong sense of guilt every day, and you will have no choice but to continue living your life without feeling relieved. Everyone wants to get out of depression as quickly as possible.
Therefore, from now on, when you have been cheated on, we will introduce how to solve the cheating problem, improve your existing romantic relationship, and regain your lover's trust.
What to do when you're cheating
Check the reason for cheating
Sometimes you've cheated on someone, but you don't know why you're cheating. If you have a strong desire to have an affair, and you can deeply feel your desire to have an affair, there's no way you'll feel regretful thinking, ``I cheated on you!'' Therefore, after cheating, you need to remember the situation before and after the cheating, and clarify the reason why you cheated.
When it comes to cheating, it often happens because the partner is excited, drunk, or in a strange atmosphere. Therefore, after getting out of an affair, the person who cheated is likely to feel guilty and regret it. Many people feel depressed after thinking, ``It was an affair that could have been avoided if they had restrained themselves, but they committed an unforgivable crime because they couldn't resist temporary temptation or stimulation...''
Replaying the memory of your affair isn't good for your mind, but it can be helpful when confessing the circumstances of your affair to your lover. When you tell your lover the details of your affair and ask for forgiveness, you emphasize being ``swayed by temporary emotions,'' ``impulsive behavior,'' and ``a one-time relationship,'' and treat cheating as a ``mistake'' rather than a ``desire.'' must be. The best way to make your partner aware of your guilt and remorse is to explain in detail why you cheated on him.
Try to solve the current cheating problem
If you have cheated, you should try to avoid cheating a second time as much as possible. What you should be especially careful about is that after cheating, some people feel a strong sense of guilt, so they justify their cheating behavior and believe that it's not their fault. If you don't admit your own faults, you should be able to relieve some of the guilt from cheating, but you may become a cheater, cheat repeatedly, and become a bad person who hurts your lover one after another. . If you don't want to become that kind of person, it's better to resolve the cheating problem now.
If it's a one-time affair, you should be able to convince him to break up and cut off all contact with you since you weren't in a romantic relationship to begin with. However, there is a possibility that the other person may be interested in having an affair with you and intentionally set a trap for cheating on you, so be careful when that happens, and if you break up without permission, there is a risk that the other person will publish photos of you cheating on them. there is. Therefore, it is wiser to end the cheating relationship by means such as severance payment.
How to make up with your lover after cheating on you
Time to confess to your lover
No matter what you say, you must confess your cheating behavior to your lover, apologize and ask for forgiveness. If you don't do this, you won't be able to get rid of the guilt you feel from cheating, and you won't be able to avoid the risk of your lover finding out about your affair without you knowing and getting furious. Before the problem of cheating leads to the worst outcome, it is necessary to minimize the damage caused by cheating as much as possible.
However, the timing of confessing to your lover is also important. If your relationship has already broken down, your lover may have lost feelings for you and may be worried about your infidelity. At that time, if you directly tell your lover about the circumstances of your affair, there is a high possibility that your lover will take this as an opportunity to break up with you. When things aren't going well between the two of you, it can be said to be the stage when it's most likely to cheat, so it's better to improve your relationship rather than confessing your cheating.
Points to remember when confessing to your lover
(1) “I will never cheat again.”
After explaining why he cheated, he vows never to do it again, takes the blame for his mistakes, shows convincing remorse, and finally asks for forgiveness. After confirming your sincere confession and your attitude toward cheating, your good friend will reconsider your romantic relationship and decide whether or not to continue your relationship.
(2) “I want to be with you for a long time”
It is quite difficult to regain the trust that has been lost due to cheating, so before confessing your love, you should try to soothe your lover's heart by saying things like ``You are the only one'' and ``You are my favorite.'' Then, how about improving your relationship, erasing your desire to cheat, and expressing your desire for a long-term relationship? This will increase your chances of getting your lover to forgive you.
Improving your relationship by making amends to your lover in the future
Rebuilding a relationship requires making amends for the affair. From now on, show your sincerity of love by showing your love, sending gifts, traveling together. If you think you can't be trusted after your first affair, you can prevent your lover from cheating on you again by having him or her set a rule, such as "never drink alcohol again." However, the best way to prevent cheating is to maintain a deep bond between the two of you.
Even if you become addicted to cheating, there is a way to cure it.
After cheating on someone, it's not uncommon for them to develop a habit of cheating and find it hard to tolerate not being able to do so. After giving in to the temptation of cheating, you may not be able to return to your old normal life. However, even if you become addicted to cheating, you should be able to fix it if both of you put in the effort. Let's learn how to control our emotions in order to restrain our temporary desires.
