Rushing into the scene of adultery! What should you do if you witness a cheating scene?
When I heard, ``I witnessed someone cheating on me!'' I thought it was a famous scene from a drama, but it's also something that happens in real life. If you were to witness your partner cheating or having an affair, you would probably feel empty and sad. This is especially shocking for those who lived happily ever after without knowing that their partner was cheating on them. However, it can also be said that finding out that your partner has been cheating on you is better than continuing to live with your partner cheating on you. Cheating or extramarital affairs will reveal your partner's true nature, so it's a good chance to reconsider the future of your family and marriage.
If you witness the cheating scene, you can confirm that the other person is cheating. As for how to deal with it afterwards, do you lose your cool, lose control of your anger, and directly beat up your partner and the person you're having an affair with to relieve your frustration? Will you plan your revenge while vehemently cursing them, saying, “I won’t forgive you!”? wrong! Fighting is a crime on both sides, so violence and threats are no good! This article describes the following actions:
So, what should you do to strengthen your position and take advantage of future developments?
What to do when witnessing an affair/cheating
First, regain your composure
Many people get emotional just by seeing their lover dating someone else, but the most important thing to do when witnessing an affair is to remain calm. In order to make the right decisions and plan for the future, it is difficult to do so after witnessing an affair or infidelity, but you must never lose your rationality.
Ask yourself, “Are you really having an affair?”
If you are someone who has always distrusted your partner and suspected that he or she might be having an affair, just seeing your partner with someone else of the opposite sex can make you think, ``No way, he's dating someone else.'' You may think to yourself, "Is he really cheating? He's definitely cheating or having an affair!" Observe your partner and this person to make sure they are really cheating. If two people are walking side by side, it proves that they have a close relationship. If the two of you are repeatedly kissing, sweet-talking, hugging, and other brazen behavior, you're definitely cheating. Of course, there is no need to check if you witness a sexual affair happening. Even in the scene where the two are naked in bed, you can be sure that they are having an affair.
Obtain evidence of cheating
The cheating scene is an opportunity to obtain conclusive evidence. Use a camera, voice recorder, cell phone, or other device with photo/video capabilities to capture the decisive moment when the two of you are having an affair. It is enough to film enough to reveal the fact that the two are having an affair. It's okay even if your camera isn't high-performance.
Always carry your smartphone with you as a precaution in case you find yourself cheating. This way, you can take it out immediately in an emergency, so it can be useful for collecting evidence of cheating. Once you have evidence of cheating, immediately transfer it to your PC using transfer software to avoid losing the data.
Talk to your partner about cheating
The most important reason why a partner continues to cheat or have an affair is that the relationship is not known. If you accuse your partner of cheating by saying, ``I saw you cheating,'' or ``You're terrible,'' there's a chance that your partner will apologize, break up with her, and reflect on your own cheating relationship. In addition, while talking about cheating with your partner, you may express your emotional pain by saying, ``I was cheated on!'' or ``I was betrayed!'' while saying things like ``I shouldn't cheat or have an affair in the future,'' or ``Repent.'' If you do, I'll forgive you!" Tell her. This may make your partner feel guilty about the cheating/infidelity relationship.
By the way, sleep helps you think calmly and discuss things with your partner, so it is recommended that you start a conversation about cheating after you have rested.
Speaking of “punishment” related to cheating/infidelity
Before the discussion, prepare a device such as a voice recorder and record the conversation. And you can decide on the "punishment" based on your partner's attitude.
If the other person feels guilty about cheating or having an affair and desperately apologizes by saying, ``I regret it,'' ``I won't do it again,'' or ``Please forgive me,'' it's okay to forgive without punishing them. Once a partner has had the experience of being caught cheating and being found out by his or her partner, he or she will never have an affair again. Also, this incident should strengthen the position of the favorite person in their relationship as lovers and husband and wife. If your position becomes stronger, it will be easier for your partner to listen to your favorite requests and wishes and have them fulfilled. Even if you ask for things you want or extra money, your partner may have no choice but to be satisfied in return for cheating on you.
However, there are cases where the other person does not apologize and even resorts to violence. If you don't feel like repenting quietly, you can consult with your spouse about divorce, property division, child support, alimony, etc. If possible, obtain information such as how long the other person has been cheating on you and how often they have been cheating on you. Anything related to cheating or extramarital affairs will affect the amount of alimony, so it is absolutely necessary to record it and save it as evidence.
Gather strong evidence of cheating
Photos, videos, voice memos of the person having an affair/cheating (dates, sex, etc.), and photos of him/her going in and out of love hotels are all strong evidence of cheating. Discussions related to cheating/infidelity that develop from the scene of cheating and witnessing it are the most important opportunity to gather evidence of cheating. Please use devices such as mobile phones to collect evidence.
