Rebuttals from cheating partners and countermeasures: If they say it, I will retort it!
When you find out that your lover has been cheating on you, in addition to talking with your lover and trying to get them to stop cheating, you may also have to reveal the true identity of the cheating partner and confront them directly. In particular, if the victim of the affair wants to claim alimony from the other party, it is necessary for both parties to discuss the affair and the amount of alimony. In that case, the consultation may not go well and there is a risk of heated discussions and fights. In order to avoid paying alimony, the cheating partner is likely to insist that ``it's not her fault'' and keep making excuses.
In that case, it would be wise to consider what you need to say before confronting your cheating partner in order to punish him/her, make him/her admit to cheating, and realize his or her mistake. For example, if your cheating partner makes excuses, you need to fight back with fair and persuasive words in order to maintain the upper hand. In this article, we will collect common objections from cheating partners when pointing out cheating behavior, and then introduce measures to prevent them.
Objections from a cheating partner and how to deal with them
One, “I wasn’t cheating.”
Facts cannot be proven without evidence. An unfaithful partner who insists that he or she is not cheating on you is likely to believe that you don't have vital evidence. Or maybe you're putting the kettle on because you want to confirm the number and type of evidence of cheating you have. In order to avoid being trapped by your cheating partner, please do not provide the most conclusive evidence, but instead provide other evidence of cheating to prove that your partner is cheating. For example, photos of two people having an affair going in and out of a love hotel are legally strong evidence to prove ``infidelity,'' but there is also the risk that the evidence will be destroyed by the cheating partner. If you are not sure if the other person has any recourse, you should think carefully before taking action.
2. “They probably broke up a long time ago.”
If your relationship with your lover has broken down, but you haven't broken up with each other, it looks like you're already at the breakup stage from the perspective of others, so there's a high possibility that your cheating partner will take advantage of that opportunity and steal your lonely lover. . But as long as you haven't broken up with your partner, your relationship has a chance to improve. Even if the relationship doesn't work out, it's pointless to claim that the two of you broke up because it's just the two of you, or a third person is cheating on you.
3. “I didn’t know he was married or had a boyfriend.”
How about telling him, ``Even if it's negligent cheating, it's still cheating.'' It is true that if a lover cheats by pretending to be single, the cheating partner must also be the one who was cheated on. However, even if you make a mistake without knowing it, it is still a mistake, and you need to bear the corresponding responsibility. Don't think, "I made a mistake, so please forgive me."
4. “Your lover forced you to have an affair.”
The cheating lover should be punished, but the two cheaters are jointly responsible. Even if you are forced to cheat, don't ignore the hurt you caused to the cheated on partner. For the person being cheated on, both of the cheating parties are subject to sanctions. You need to clearly communicate this point to the other party and make them understand.
Also, unless you are threatened, blackmailed, or raped, you should have a chance to voluntarily refuse if you are forced to have an affair. If you still haven't refused, you can't say that you're not at all responsible.
5. “Our love is real”
Some cheating partners may make rude comments because they don't want to break up with their lover. If you weren't that kind of person, you wouldn't have the audacity to steal someone else's lover without permission. If a person doesn't understand other people's feelings and only thinks about themselves, it will be difficult to get them to admit the severity of their cheating behavior. First, calmly point out what the other person said, and then help them understand the negative effects of cheating. He is still a child who cannot control his feelings well, so it may take a lot of time to convince him.
6. "There's no next time, we broke up."
Even if they broke up, it's still true that he cheated on her. It is more important to solve current problems than to worry about the future. This can also be considered the weakest argument. Why don't you say, ``Even if you don't do it from now on, please don't think that your current cheating behavior will get away with it.'' As the cheating partner, you need to reflect on your cheating behavior and apologize to the person who was cheated on. In the case of an affair, compensation may be given in the form of alimony. It is important not only to prohibit cheating in the future, but also to ensure that the person who cheated acts sincerely.
Use appropriate language to make the person who cheated on you reflect and apologize.
When talking not only with the person who cheated on you, but also with your lover who cheated on you, you may encounter objections like the ones in this article. At that time, you can use almost the same method to point out your lover's cheating behavior and make him apologize. When talking to someone who has cheated on you, the most important thing to remember is to make them reflect on their affair and make amends for the mistakes they made. Therefore, when fighting back against your opponent, it is best to avoid using extreme language as much as possible.
