When you discover that you have been cheated on, you may find it hard to believe that your lover has betrayed you, and you may be unable to control your sadness and anger. I can't forgive my lover for cheating on me, but what can I do to relieve my anger? It's a problem that many people struggle with.
Even if you can't forgive the cheating, in order to deal with it successfully, you should first calm down and think carefully about your choices for the future. You can often see it in the news about infidelity. When wives find out that their husbands are cheating, some wives resort to violence, threats, or even plans for revenge against the cheating couple. However, if you take extreme measures to resolve the affair, you may find yourself in a disadvantageous situation. I understand the emotional impact of being betrayed, but cheating must be handled carefully.
Now, after your mind has calmed down, let's think about preparing for the future. Would you break up with someone who cheated on you directly? Or, after punishing him with alimony, do you want him to no longer date or even have any contact with you? Cheating behavior differs from person to person, so the solution to it also differs from person to person.
Decide how to proceed depending on the situation
Some people feel that they can never forgive their partner if they find out that they have been cheated on, but they should not act rashly until they know the truth. If possible, it is better to decide how to deal with it based on the reason why your lover is cheating. Did your lover cheat on you out of sexual desire? Or was she coerced into cheating by someone else? Self-will is important as a cause of cheating. With this, you can confirm your lover's desire to have an affair, and even estimate his or her future actions.
Another deciding point during the analysis is whether or not you are at fault for cheating. It's your partner's fault for cheating, but the cause of the cheating may be your words and actions, or your lack of sex or prioritizing work. When someone cheats on you, it's wise to think, ``Am I really at fault?'' and look at your family and romantic relationships as objectively as possible.
After reviewing the cheating incident and the romantic relationship between the two, make your choice.
From “I can’t forgive” to “I’ll forgive if you apologize.”
Some people think that they can't forgive, but when they see the other person apologizing but blaming themselves too much for their own sins and it's painful, some people are moved and forgive. People who have been cheated on may become angry and sad not because they were cheated on, but because the other person cheated on them, but they think their actions were wrong and are not willing to reflect and apologize. When you think that you can't forgive your lover for cheating, think about whether you can't forgive him even if he apologizes properly. Perhaps through an attitude of guilt and remorse for your lover's cheating, you can resolve your painful feelings.
From “I can’t forgive” to “I can forgive, but I need to make amends”
Some people think, ``If I forgive someone for cheating, it will be like it never happened, so I can't forgive them.'' In fact, one way to do this is to tell your lover that you forgive him for cheating, and at the same time state your conditions and try to improve your love life. This can also be considered compensation for the pain of being cheated on. You can make rules and promises, buy them gifts, or ask them to travel with you. As the person who was cheated on, you can submit your wishes as you wish.
I just can't forgive
What you should be careful about is that saying "I can't forgive" is not the same as "breaking up." There are cases where you can't forgive your partner but still continue your romantic relationship. However, in that case, the trust between the two has already been broken, and even if you want to rebuild the romantic relationship, you will not be able to regain the original romantic feelings.
In particular, if your lover doesn't think cheating is a big deal and can't be satisfied with just your love alone, there's a big risk that he'll continue to cheat again unless he changes that mindset. Therefore, if you can't accept that your partner really cheated on you, you can choose to break up or divorce.
Don't just break up, punish cheating
If you can't resolve your anger by just breaking up, why not punish the other person by not only leaving them, but punishing them for their sins and warning them? It is possible to publicize the cheating incident and cause public debate, and if the affair is an affair, it is possible to demand alimony from the cheating partner and divorce alimony from the lover.
Of course, in order to claim compensation for an affair, you will need to have evidence of the affair, so in order to confirm that the two have committed adultery, it is necessary to investigate the affair by checking their LINE accounts or taking pictures of the scene of the affair. It is important to do this.
Once you have resolved the cheating issue, the two of you should avoid contact from now on, and cut off any contact on LINE or over the phone. As time passes, the feelings will cool down and the romantic relationship will naturally disappear before you know it.
Why is it “unforgivable”?
Do you feel pain when your partner betrays you and cheats on you with someone else, so you can't forgive him? Or can't you forgive her boyfriend because you can't accept that he chose a cheater who is uglier than you? Some people don't like it because their things are taken by others. Even if you simply say that cheating is unacceptable, the reasons vary from person to person. Being cheated on is an opportunity to understand your feelings more deeply.
