Affair and love affairs surrounding kissing: Affair with just kissing! ?
Where does adultery start? There seems to be considerable individual variation in this perception. From the legal definition of ``adultery,'' the act of ``having a physical relationship of your own free will with a person of the opposite sex other than your spouse,'' is clearly considered adultery. However, if a married person continues to have a relationship without sex with another person of the opposite sex, can that also be considered "adultery"?
For example, if you maintain a relationship that consists only of kissing, is that considered "unfaithfulness" or "infidelity"?
A full-fledged ``kiss'' where lips touch each other is known to the world as an expression of affection between a man and a woman, or as a romantic symbol. In countries like France, men and women often greet each other with a light kiss in daily life, but for Japanese people, kissing is not an easy expression of friendship.
Therefore, kissing is now used as a sign of intimacy. It is not uncommon for two people who kiss to begin a romantic relationship, and for two people in love to use a kiss as a heartfelt expression of love.
So, what is the act of kissing someone of the opposite sex who is not your spouse even though you are married? From the perspective of the people around them, it goes without saying that this is an ``extramarital love'', but some people think that ``if the relationship consists only of kissing, it is not cheating, let alone infidelity.''
Reasons why you still kiss someone of the opposite sex even though you are married
Why do you kiss someone other than your partner? Especially if the other person is also married, it is easy to think that it is cheating. It's really weird, isn't it? Here, we will analyze the psychology of people who behave in such a thoughtless manner.
1. Experience stimulation by kissing someone of the opposite sex
Once you get used to kissing your spouse, it feels silly to kiss every day, so some people seek stimulation from their boring daily routine by kissing other people of the opposite sex. Although it's a bit light, kissing is an easy way to get rid of boredom, so if you're at a drinking party, your lover may end up kissing someone of the opposite sex who he likes because he's drunk. If the two of you get excited, there is a risk that the relationship will develop into an affair.
2. Expression of uncontrollable romantic feelings
There is a possibility that your lover wants to express his/her affection by kissing you because he/she likes the other person. Since he is married, if he is unable to confess his feelings or go on a date, he may use the intimate act of kissing to show that he is interested in him and ``invite him to have an affair.''
3. I genuinely want to have sex with my partner.
Some people develop a habit of looking for someone to have an affair with when they get excited, and after playing together, kissing the other person and wanting to have an affair. Mentally, they think it's just a game, so they don't take it seriously, but it goes without saying that having a physical relationship with someone other than your spouse is an act of adultery.
After all, love and sex often start with a kiss. If a lover kisses another person of the opposite sex of his own will, there is a high possibility that he has an affair or a desire to develop an extramarital relationship with the other person. Please be careful not to commit adultery.
What to do when a married lover kisses someone of the opposite sex
If you witness a ``kiss that is a sign of infidelity,'' let's check to see if the other person has had an affair. It is also necessary to distinguish between ``genuine infidelity that involves physical relations'' and ``infidelity that consists only of kissing to avoid legal sanctions.''
1. Beware of an affair that started with a kiss
Kissing is a sign that there are feelings of infidelity, so if you suspect that your partner has been unfaithful, why not start investigating the affair? When it comes to cheating investigations, most people generally start collecting evidence of cheating from smartphones and computers. However, it is possible that the two people who had the affair were able to enjoy the affair at home or in their car, so it is wise to check everywhere so that you do not forget. If you find strong evidence of infidelity through an investigation, you can legally prove the relationship between the two as ``adultery'' and file a claim for compensation.
two. Kissing alone does not constitute "infidelity"
However, conclusive evidence of cheating is required for a finding of ``infidelity.'' Acts such as kissing and doing push-ups are considered ``adultery'' in the eyes of the public, but they are still not convincing enough as evidence of ``infidelity'' under the law. Eating together or keeping in touch does not prove infidelity. For this reason, if the other party engages in an affair that consists only of kissing, it is difficult to certify it as ``infidelity.''
In order to prove ``adultery'', you need at least something that can be inferred that ``two people had a physical relationship of their own free will.'' Although it is difficult to obtain photographs of the affair at the scene of the affair or evidence that proves who went in and out of the love hotel, it can be useful in a trial for infidelity. Of course, photos or videos of just kissing or push-ups can also be submitted as evidence of an affair, as they show an intimate relationship between the two.
3. ``Psychological adultery'' to escape legal ``adultery''
If two people who have had an affair have a physical relationship, it is easy to become serious about the affair, and there is also a possibility that the relationship will collapse due to the guilt and self-loathing of the affair, which is exacerbated by the sex. If people around you find out about your sexual relationship, it will have a negative impact on your daily life, and there is a risk that it will be recognized as ``adultery'' and the person involved in the affair will be required to pay compensation. The cost of infidelity is scarier than you might imagine, so unfaithful couples have come up with various ways to escape punishment.
Nowadays, the number of people who engage in ``psychological adultery'' is gradually increasing because they do not want their issues to be discussed in the public eye. Since it is only a mental affair, there is no physical relationship, and it cannot be recognized as ``adultery'' under the law.If questioned by your spouse, you can get away with saying ``we didn't have sex'' or ``it wasn't adultery.'' As long as the two of you are not having sex, you can go on dates and have easy conversations and contact. A lover may maintain a ``kissing-only affair'' with his or her partner, building an intimate romantic relationship without having sex.
However, since a ``kiss-only affair'' is based on love that is variable, it is likely to be influenced by the romantic relationship with the person you love and the views of those around you. If you try to improve your relationship with your lover or blame him for his infidelity, the feelings that can only be connected through a kiss may cool down and disappear on their own.
4. Your lover may have a desire to have an affair even if he or she isn't having an affair.
Even if you are convinced that your lover is not having an affair, it does not change the fact that your lover showed his interest in the opposite sex by kissing you. It may not be strange to have a desire for extramarital affairs, but if you can't stand it and carry out that desire, it will cause damage to those around you. In order to prevent a happy family/marital life from being destroyed, it is necessary to take measures to prevent your lover from cheating and to eliminate her desire for extramarital affairs.
If you worry too much, you will destroy your mind and body.
After witnessing a lover's kiss, many people begin to worry about problems such as, ``Maybe he's having an affair?'' ``What should I do if he cheats on me?'' It's true that an affair starts with a kiss, but if you worry too much about it just because of the kiss, it's bad for your body and mind. Isn't it difficult when you get sick from anxiety and stress even though you're not having an affair? Even if the affair really happens, we should take care of our physical and mental health in order to punish the two who committed the affair. Eliminate your worries about cheating and deepen your relationship with your lover to avoid cheating.
